Part 2 (sorry, I am on a soapbox and will now step down and get to my point!! )

Richard, any everyone else: you need to get all of the Power's of Attorney, get their wishes either written down or on a video. You have now become the proud "parent" of your parent. Trust me, it is not a fun job. Don't get me wrong, I love my father and I am doing all I can to make sure he is in a safe place, with 3 meals a day, clean room and clean clothes.

You are going to find out who really loves your mom/dad and who is really just hanging around with thier hands out.

If you & your family memebers did not get along before dementia, you will really not get along now. Dementia does NOT bring a family together.

The fighting, name-calling et-all only gets worse. You will most likely never speak to these people ever again.

You know the saying "Illness brings the family closer..." that is NOT true.


Trust me - everything MUST be in writing or you too will wind up in court, and it get ugly - fast.

What you are doing is RIGHT and do not second guess yourself.

Richard- you ARE doing the right thing, and do not let your family tell you otherwise.

P.S.

Follow the advise of others about your nephew......boot his 26 year old arse out & change the locks. You do not need to deal with him, or anyone else right now.


OK - time for me to stop my rant. Sorry if I went on & on.

Good Luck!

Bunny