part two?

One of my other brothers was wild and crazy back when we were about my nephew's age.

When he was running around with his friends I told him if he got into trouble and was hurt or killed that I would not shed a tear for him......I guess it worked, he's still alive and kicking.

When I told my nephew this he kinda laughed and said that he wasn't worried.
The times I heard him come home and saw that he was so wasted that he could not walk I wondered what the people who drove him home were like.

I confronted him when he walked past me and told him, you aren't going to say anything? Because he is/was never told anything he immediately becomes defensive and starts to argue really stupid points.

I asked him why he doesn't call to check in or let us know where he is.

His response? I called you -twice to say he was coming home and then never shows up- He could be at the morgue or county jail for all I know when he pulls that shiat! He then turns it back on me that his number is on the caller I.D. and I should call him to get info. I laughed at him and told him I wasn't in the business of keeping track of him and it was up to him to respect my mom's house and me.

My family has this really stupid phone ethic that they cannot be bothered to make an extra call or make a 'decent' phone call-another reason that I don't have a phone and don't run to answer a ringing phone. Examples? My sis would call my mom and tell her she was having a party and that SHE should tell everyone to come.

Like,she can't call us individually and make the invite? The last time we hade a Christmas party I asked her what I should bring and she said, "Nothing!' Later on she complained that no one helped her with the expense of throwing the party-we helped her clean up and my GF at the time evn washed her effing dishes!

Another thing that happens is my sibs call to my mom's house and they always sound like it's a GD emergency, "MOM, pick up the phone, HELLO, HELLO!"

I told my nephew that it wasn't my job to keep track of him and it was his job to give us a courtesy call to let us know where he is. He seems to think that I should call him.

He also started to give me that BS line that he's out on job interviews. When he called last night-I heard the call on the machine but did not pick it up because he was already drunk and slurring his words. I didn't bother to answer it. I knew that he was partying with his pals.

A about two weeks ago he told me that he might be leaving - his other thing is leaving about 8-8:30 in the evening, saying he's coming back later on and shows up three days later! When 10:30 rolled around he hadn't left-so I went into the house and sat down to watch TV and keep my eye on things.

ON other occasions he's brought his friends into Ma's house, into his room and they stay up drinking until 12-1 in the morning. Mom had come to camp out on the sofa in the front room so having him and his friends parade thru the house was kinda inconsiderate.

Anyway, It was a few minutes after midnight when I heard a car pull up and the gate rattle, I went to the front door and there was a woman on the porch asking for him. I told her that it was late and if she knew what time it was. She asked for A and I told her to wait.....I had never seen this twit before and I sure wasn't going to invite her in. I went an got him.....he picked up his bag, walked out and didn't come back for a few days.

When I told him that if he wasn't going to call and make a courtesy call-other than the "i'll be home later" and never show up phone calls he should get out.


He had the nerve to tell me that I wasn't working and just sat around all day.

I told him that I have worked for years already and it was none of his business.

I also told him that his computer was unplugged until I said it would be plugged back in.

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I guess what I need to know is if I am wrong for being such a hard arse on him.


I haven't asked for anything much in return.....Just for him to be considerate and he can stay in the house......

I am waiting for him to be out and get a call from the police or hospital.....I don't need that shiat and cannot and will not help him if he does get into a bind.

It's just another problem I do not need now.