When family attacks/elder care and sibs rant.

[Medusa]

I wish I only had a rant that went for only two posts.

My nephew told my bro and SIL that "He couldn't stay here tonight" called his buddy then went to my mom's bedside to tell her that I threw him out of the house.


I am totally screwed. I have the feeling that my bouts with my AH relatives have only started...I was worried about fighting with them and you know?

I don't care because I feel like I am telling the truth...and the truth is on my side.

His going to your mom's bedside to say anything to her other than encouragement is sleazy. That's shameful. Deep breaths, Richard.

[jazzcat]

His going to your mom's bedside to say anything to her other than encouragement is sleazy. That's shameful. Deep breaths, Richard.

Amen to that!

What your back Richard.

[RICHARD]

But, sad to say, that's the way things are.

Why do I have to baby everyone with phone calls or info?

I was thinking about this and I am over it. My bro, SIL and me are in this for the long haul. Even tho there are moments of sheer panic it will be all right.

I have to laugh because someone will make a smart arse remark and I'll tell them, "Thanks for coming over and talking to me or offering some help or insight"

Then the indignation will start and they'll say, "You never asked!"

There I'll have my answer.


I should have asked.

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I had a good talk with a social worker this P.M. A day at a time and hang tough!

[Catsnclay]

Glad you had that talk with the social worker...good first step!

it is really good to let them know EVERYTHING!! You may feel like you are droning on & on, but they do need to hear everything, and trust me they already know who are the 'good' guys Vs the bad ones.

Um......you DON'T have to answer to ANY one, nor 'baby' them - they are the ones that need to get out of the denial stage, not you.


BTW Richard, if you really want the full blown, play by play of my life, and trust me - you really don't want to hear it! - just let me know and i will give you a call......do you have all weekend to talk?!!

Hang tough, keep in touch - it will be the only way to stay sane, and no it's not to late for you!!!!!

The only 2 people you have worry about right now is you & your mother.

And in that order!! Your mother will not get any help if you are down!!! Stay tough and the answer to everything is - (now repeat after me.....).... NO!

[RICHARD]

Whew...Here we go, Again.

Where do I start?

My dear old sis came back from her second vacation. The hurricane cut it short. LOL, she deserved it.

I have to ask this.....Am I wrong for despising her?

I found out that the last time I spoke to her on the phone about her giving the financial details to my brother - She hung up on me because I called her a curse word! Actually her fragile paranoid ego THINKS I called her a curse word. I told her she was effing stupid. When she called she put me on a speaker phone, I asked her to take me OFF OF IT because I hate them and what I had to say to her was between us, I found out later that her husband, listening in on a speaker phone said that he didn't want that "SOB TO CALL HERE AGAIN.' MY sis told my brother that so I don't know how true the story is!

I really don't care. I'd rather be an SOB that some emotionally handicapped shell.

One of the reasons that I hold them in such low regard is from what I have seen and what I have heard about them. BIL was an LAPD cop (How? lol, I dun know!) and he would tell my mom and dad some of his war stories. He once told my dad, who was born in Mexico, this story.I wasn't there but I heard it from my mom and really do not doubt it happened because I heard other stories tinged the same way.

The LAPD has what's called a Special Order 40, which doesn't allow a PO to ask anyone what their resident status is.

So, when they pulled over people who didn't have a license or I.D. they were told to go to city hall and get one.

My dad did have a green card and later made citizen-he did tell me that he
that there were times that he felt uncomfortable around him, especially when he would tell about the stupid cruel things the po-po would do to citizens.

Anyway, she came back from vistiing my mom.

MY brother had arranged for a lawyer to come see her and sign a will and power of attorney. The woman drove a ways to get to my mom's bedside my mom backed down after agreeing to sign papers.

Sis, I should just call her Witch to cut thru the chase pulls up to the gate with my bro. She gets out of the car and says, "I have to talk to you!"

Typical effing drama queen fashion.......She'll never apologize to anyone (me) for being an effing liar and a stupid inconsiderate biatch. I was trimming some plants in the front yard so I stood up and said, "what do you want?"

"It's about mom she's distraught and she wants to talk to you." I have not gone to see my mom for a week. I am ticked off at her for another reason besides the latest 'lawyer incident'. When we asked her to meet with the first lawyer she did a few things that really hurt me, in front of him. He didn't realize it was happening so I didn't feel bad about that, but she was being rather uncooperative.

She won't work with us and is holding all the bad blood from the other kids against my bro, SIL and me. So, as long as she's doing failry well, I don't want to deal with her. SHe blames me for keeping her there, is mad about my nephew crying to her and about my little sister and brother because those F-wads keep showing up and asking her to sign papers.

What can I do? Nothing.

Going back to the Evil Biatch, THERE I CALLED HER A NAME!, She said that mom wanted to talk to me about some bills and stuff. Well, She says one thing, does another and blames me for crap I didn't, don't want and will never do.

I told the EW that I'd talk to mom tomorrow and I told her is that what you wanted?

She starts on her trip, "WELL, YOU HAVE TO TALK TO HER! She's crying and she is upset!" I laughed and told her that she had talked to her and I would let her know what I'd find out. I had to laugh because she walked into the yard-which she hadn't done for some years to confront me about this latest problem-And I told her that I wasn't going to call her house. I wanted to say that she was a liar and I didn't want Cro Magnon man to listen in on the conversations. I told her that I didn't appreciate her hanging up on me.

LOLOLOL, So here's the rub. My sister is a coward. Plain and simple. When confronted with the truth, she huffs and puffs and walks away-feigning hurt and using the tongue lashing with the truth as a reason for walking away and not confronting the issue!

She turned to me and said, "You cursed at me and even my husband doesn't do that!" I laughed and said that maybe that was what she needed, I also chased her with the line, "Walk away, D, you are a bigger woman than I'll ever be!"

Do I care? NOT really. She's always been a drama queen. She always has used someone telling the truth to get indignant and be offended.

She obviously can't handle the fact that mom is sick, she is a FA daughter and I have a handle on things. I know she wants to see me crash and burn and that ain't gonna happen.

TIme to take a break.

[Cinder & Smoke]

I have not gone to see my mom for a week.
I am ticked off at her for another reason besides the latest 'lawyer incident'.

She won't work with us and is holding all the bad blood from the other kids
against my bro, SIL and me.
So, as long as she's doing failry well, I don't want to deal with her.
She blames me for keeping her there ...

What can I do?

Time to take a break.

RICHARD ~

Please don't ignore your Mom.
She's elderly, and her mind doesn't always function clearly ...
When she's confused, the words don't come out right ...
Don't hold that against her ...

Give her a *Kiss* and a {{{Hug}}} while you remember the GOOD Times.

[RICHARD]

RICHARD ~

Please don't ignore your Mom.
She's elderly, and her mind doesn't always function clearly ...
When she's confused, the words don't come out right ...
Don't hold that against her ...

Give her a *Kiss* and a {{{Hug}}} while you remember the GOOD Times.

Thanks, it just kills me, but I have to take a break- I don't need anymore drama and getting my hopes up for a hand when all I get is a finger.

Talked to the doc today and got some good news so it's not all bad.

Thanks to you all again!