Kids Having Kids....sad way of life these days

[Fox-Gal]

For 15 years I owned child care centers and they where sup-contracted, in a way, through the state. So most of my children where abused or welfare children and I would have to say that about 70% of the welfare case children where born to teen aged girls. Some of them had 2 to 3 children. And what really got to me was not only that they had children so young, but for those that had more then one, they went into the next pregnancy, saying it will be OK, WELFARE will pay for it.

I had one woman/girl tell me once when her youngest was turning 2 and she knew the state was going to cut off her free day care, if she didn't get a job, that she needed to get pregnant again, that way she would get her free day care back, plus more money coming in. I was shocked, that she would even think about having another baby, but to do it so she didn't have to pay day care, out of her own pocket or get a job.......WOW!!

I am also a great aunt to the cutest little boy, who was born to a teen anger mother and through the whole mess, of her pregnancy, I ended up blaming her mother more then I did her, for it happening. The shear stupidity of the mother's logic got to me. She knew her daughter was a little slow, from a birth defect, knew she was dating a older boy. Did she educate her............NOPE, just told her if she ever got pregnant, she'd kill her.

When she got pregnant, we talked about giving the child up, so she could go on with her life and education and the child would have a loving more stable home. Mom's answer was "she lied. she pays, I'm not going to let her get out of her mistake that easy." So they both gets a life sentence for her mistake. So now the baby and daughter live at home with mom...........and mom BI##%%S about having to support them.

I guess what I learned in both these things, the child care center and my niece, is that now days the needs of the children being born, come in second or even third and not first, as it should be. It's all about ME ME ME, now day and not what's truly important.

Not only do we need to educate the children, we need to educate the parents too. Most of these teen agers that have children, got their values, ideas or lack of from their parents. If we don't educate both, like someone said, the cycle will repeat itself from generation to generation.