First I had a couple comments individually that sparked something for me, then I'll get on to my general consensus on the matter, not that anyone actually cares but I'll do it anyways because people can always skim past it if they don't want to read it. lol

Quote Originally Posted by Randi View Post
In school, we had to line up in two rows every morning and follow the teacher to our classroom, girls in their own classroom and boys in theirs. The playground was divided up by a thick white line, so girls and boys didn't mix. We accepted it as normal, even though, today, I can’t see it was an advantage for anyone, it probably made all of us more shy to the opposite sex.
Actually I see a great advantage (18 and under). If both sexes aren't allowed to mix freely then it makes those times (dances, dates etc) more special when they are allowed to mix instead of being taken for granted. If the sexes aren't allowed to mix and are shy with each other, in my opinon, we'd go back to having far less teen pregnancies, although that part would also require society to go back to being shocked when teens are kissing passionately in public, holding hands in public, and hugging freely in affection. That ain't likely to happen again, but it was a combination of societies views and separation or restriction of mixing of sexes that kept the unwed mothers to more of a shocking minimum IMHO.


Quote Originally Posted by Medusa View Post
As you say, if it's at the adult's request, then that's different. I mentioned that I told my neighbor's 10 year old son that he may call me Mary but his mother objected, saying that it's disrespectful.
I ran into that with one family at our church. While I greatly respect them for teaching their children manners and respect, I also think it's disrespectful to teach your children to call someone something they don't care for. To call someone Mr/Mrs when they specifically, and repeatedly ask otherwise is accomplishing the opposite result, it's offensive instead of respectful, IMHO.


Quote Originally Posted by Cataholic View Post
Jonah LOVES to hold the door open for people at his nursery school. (It irritates me, cause it makes me later than I want to be ). You would be amazed at the number of WOMEN- MOTHERS of small children themselves- walk by as if the cannot see a 4 year old holding the door for them.
I always make a fuss over the kids that hold the door for me, and usually look them in the eye, bend down a bit, and say 'thank you young man/lady'. The only exceptions I make to that is when some kids try to open a door that's way too big for them and throw a fit if you try to help, or the ones that may open the door but then stand in the way playing so you can't get through. Fortunately I don't encounter too many of those types.


As for my general concensus (sp?) I think it goes a bit deeper than has been touched upon so far. 'Back in the good 'ole days' there was one thing that was fairly constant that is completely missing today, even with the parents in some cases.

When I and my mom were kids the adults were allowed to punish the kids, and not just their own. Whether that meant a spanking, or squeezing your arm, getting down on your level, and staring at you while using a harsh tone didn't matter. The result was the same. Even if you did something wrong and your parents weren't present, there was always an adult around somewhere to catch you, punish you, and would report the incident to your parents who in turn would also punish you. There was no where you could 'get away' with much of anything.

In today's world we don't know or, in some cases, care about our neighbors. So it makes it kinda hard to report any behavior to the parents when you don't know which kid goes with which house. People come and go and ofttimes no one knows the difference.

In today's world if you report the problem to the parents you're lible to get your head bit off with swear words and 'who are you to pick on my child'. (actually have had this happen to me). Given that people tend to not do or say anything anymore, thus 'allowing' bad behaviour to continue and escalate.

In today's world people are under the misconception that you cannot touch a child for any reason. I can't recall where I read the article but there is no law against swatting your child with "some" force, on the behind only, fully clothed, and with an open hand, not leaving any marks or causing physical damage. I know many people, for whatever reason, are against spanking. I suppose that's their right and choice, and not all children actually require spanking to make them mind. I dissagree with the common notion that spanking kids properly, causes them to be violent people. I was raised with spanking, as was most of my family, my mom, my husband and his family, and most of the kids I went to school with. Not one of them has ever been arrested for violent behavior, assault, etc. I think allowing a child to get away with kicking/hitting people without reprocussions teaches them violence far more than spanking ever did. JMHO

Despite the fact that the ways of this world continually depress me, anger me, and drive me absolutely batty at times; there is nothing we can do to change it, unless we want to go the route the Amish/Mennonites have (not a bad idea actually, they have well behaved children).

Things will continue to get worse all the time. I can go on all day for weeks longing for the 'good 'ole days' and complain about modern times, but since there's nothing I can do about it, and I know how I get when I'm like that, I'll just refrain and end my monologue here.