Opinions needed..............

[cassiesmom]

HUGS to you...Look after yourself and maybe she will learn to do the same.

Hugs from here, too, and prayers and good thoughts.

[carole]

Gosh i don't envey your situation at all, i am sure your daughter is just stressed and does not really mean what she is saying,still very hurtful all the same.

Maybe it is a blessing in disguise that she has taken this stance with you, we all want to be there for our children in hard times,but is sounds like your daughter is making that very difficult for you to do just that, honestly she just has to meet you half way, or it's no way, as for being a built in babysitter, that is not fair either, you have your own well-being and life to think about as well,be there for her as much as you feel you can, I am sure if she got a place of her own nearby, you would beable to pick and choose your time with her and the children, and help whenever you felt it was possible or needed, anyhow good luck, and try not too feel guilty, because you have nothing to feel guilty about ok.

[Laura's Babies]

Don't let her remarks about not letting you see them ruffel your feathers any. I would laugh at that and be on my merry way and she would never know I worried for one minute about that.. Because I know the first time she needs a babysitter, guess who she will call.

My grand daughter does that to her mother and she gives in every time giving that girl more and more power over her. She comes in that house whenever she want and "takes" anything she wants (I call it stealing) and if Mom complaines, she uses the threat of keeping the kids away to "whip" Mom into place. She takes money, their car, even her Mom's clothes, or whatever she wants. Don't EVER let her use that on you and have it work, you would be opening the door to God only knows what.

I had only one child that tried that one on me because he used it on their other grandmother and it worked. I told him "fine" and went on to the next subject without hesitation. Before the day was out he called back and wanted to know if I could keep them that night... Nope, I had plans that night.. LOL! He NEVER use that on me again! Believe me, it is all in how YOU respond to their threats and blackmail. (It only works if you let it)