Thanks everyone! Problem is... SIL would rather a huge family fight than tell my aunt to back off. SIL is one of those people that HATES to confront a person, and so is my brother. So instead of confronting and nipping a problem in the bud by politely telling my aunt to back away, they end up with a major family war. I don't understand their logic, but there it is! They say "I don't want to hurt her feelings" meanwhile my aunt is pushing everyone around and making everyone else miserable... but hey, they didn't insult my aunt!

I'll be nice and smile. I won't say anything, but if I do see things getting out of hand, I won't be able to bite my tongue! My aunt and I got into a bit of an arguement on Christmas Eve -- she is so broke she can't buy groceries half the time yet she can pay $500 a month for my 18 year old cousin's car insurance??? No way! That lazy kid can get off his butt and get a job to pay for his own insurance! She came up with a hundred and one excuses... then I looked at my cousin and told him he should be ashamed of himself for mooching off his mother. If looks could kill!!! He shot me was like "nobody talks to ME like that!" Ahh... my family! such a bunch of loonies!