opinions wanted family issue

**caseysmom** · 05-15-2012, 04:12 PM

Originally Posted by Lady's Human

I'd have a chat with the in-law.

Very simply, it's my house, and if someone is going to start issues, I reserve the right to finish them.

"Control" belongs to the person/people in charge of the household. Frankly I would have shown him the door for being a needless skunk at the garden party. I'd rather have peace with the people who are there and be minus one or two guests.

Yeah I agree my in laws were guests in my house and he was insulting my guests...a grown man that has that much trouble with a little boy has issues. When my sister married him she had a cat, now he doesn't let her even though she makes all the money but anyway it was funny she took a pic of the kitty walking up on his back when he was laying down I said oh look you do love pizazz and he said pizazz was trying to show dominance I hate that cat....

I think the next time their is a holiday I just won't invite them and if it comes up I will nicely tell my sister why.

**Cataholic** · 05-15-2012, 04:49 PM

Originally Posted by caseysmom

. When my sister married him she had a cat, now he doesn't let her even though she makes all the money

Nice. An adult 'letting' or 'not letting' another adult do something. That would have been clue #1 this person wasn't for me.

**caseysmom** · 05-15-2012, 05:05 PM

Originally Posted by Cataholic

Nice. An adult 'letting' or 'not letting' another adult do something. That would have been clue #1 this person wasn't for me.

Yep...and since my sister never had children of her own which she wanted it makes me even madder. Don't get me wrong my brother in law treats my sister in law like a queen (with exceptions on cats haha) he opens the door for her (its wierd to me actually she has to sit and wait while he gets out to come over and open her door) he does all the cooking and he generally treats her very well. They are both extreme neat freaks so I was happy she found her match made in hell....haha

**sasvermont** · 05-15-2012, 05:13 PM

It seems to me that the BIL has a big mouth and needs someone to tell him that. What a three year old does at someone else's house just isn't his business. Plain and simple.

I agree that three year old kiddies are just that. Three. They are learning skills - and trying to get on with their new lives. His parents should have prepared him for the eating cake scene and the party, etc. before the party. Even then, there is no guarantee the child will act correctly. Kids are kids at age three. I like the well behaved ones, I must admit. They do understand at three, a bit limited, and each time you change up the situation, it confuses them. Give him a couple of years, with good parenting, and he'll be fine. Also, all children are not created equal. Some learn to be socially appropriate much more quickly than others.

I would not invite BIL to any event unless his wife tells him how to behave in order to be a guest. The little boy will be fine.

**moosmom** · 05-15-2012, 05:24 PM

When my sister married him she had a cat, now he doesn't let her even though she makes all the money

Hey Johanna,

FINALLY we agree on something! He wouldn't LET her??? What are they, in the stone age????

**caseysmom** · 05-15-2012, 05:24 PM

I'm pretty sure when they start acting like this to my daughters twins crud will hit the fan...he already told my daughter he is happy to help with parenting if she asks..they insunuate that I didn't teach them anything...