Opinions needed before tonight...

[shais_mom]

Gosh that's a tough one.
If you leave him home you'll worry about him all weekend.
If you take him you'll worry you messed up the bonding process.
Tho the bonding process will happen on its own time. Paizly has tortietude - she will do things on her own time!
I hope some of the others with more cat experience than me can help.
((hugs))
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[krazyaboutkatz]

Yes, this is a tough one to answer. Will you be having a friend or neighbor coming over to check on Paizly? If so then I'd probably also leave Jax at home with Paizly.

Do still keep them separated when you're not there? If so then I guess you'd need to just keep them in separate rooms while you're away if you do decide to leave Jax at home. Good luck with whatever you decide.

[lvpets2002]

I will have to aggree with the others & their notations of = if the two stay together during the day or night when you both are gone && then leave them together for the weekend.. And since you said Paizly jumps down after hissing & swating then I see of no problems.. Now you might have a friend or family member to peek in on them say like Saturday Night.. Good Luck & keep us posted ok..

[Taz_Zoee]

Staci, I will add you on FB as soon as I'm done here. Thanks!

Sandie and Tracey, normally we do not leave them alone together in the house while we are out or at night. Because Bruce is afraid he is too small and will get stuck somewhere! However, one time Bruce was not home and I ran out for a while and I did leave them alone in the house together. All was well when I returned (of course it was only about 10 minutes total).

We do not have anyone to come check on Paizly since we are only gone for the weekend. And I don't have anyone close enough to come check on them just once. Bruce is picky about who has access to our house.

Personally, I think it would help in the bonding process because Paizly will play with him without any hissing at all when we aren't looking. As soon as they are in a room with one of us she begins the hissing and growling. Well, this is not consistent, because we do sometimes hear her hissing and growling in the other room. But this little boy is persistant! He does not back down from her when she hisses, growls or even baps him upside the head. LOL

I guess I'll see if any others have suggestions and also discuss it with Bruce again. Thanks ladies!!

[lvpets2002]

Keep in Mind Cats are very territorial.. I am sure most of the time Paizly's hissing is due to she is telling Jax of her territory.. This be wheather its you & hubby or a room that she thinks is her territory.. I still think things will be fine.. However go by your instincts & do what you think is best..

[shais_mom]

Personally, I think it would help in the bonding process because Paizly will play with him without any hissing at all when we aren't looking. As soon as they are in a room with one of us she begins the hissing and growling. Well, this is not consistent, because we do sometimes hear her hissing and growling in the other room. But this little boy is persistant! He does not back down from her when she hisses, growls or even baps him upside the head. LOL

I guess I'll see if any others have suggestions and also discuss it with Bruce again. Thanks ladies!!

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if you think it will help the bonding process - then I'd leave Jax at home.
have a good time!

[moosmom]

Since there is still alot of hissing and growling, I wouldn't leave them alone unsupervised. If you're only going away for a couple of days, just leave plenty of food and water (water especially since it's summer and hot out) out for them in their respect places. Cats are natural grazers. They won't gobble up a big bowl of food at one time. Remember, cats don't like change. And since they are still in the process of getting used to each other, I wouldn't take the chance. Just my opinion from years of experience.

[Taz_Zoee]

They won't gobble up a big bowl of food at one time. WHAT!? I think Jax did not get this memo!! He gobbles Paizly food like it's going out of style!!
It's either take Jax with us or leave him home to have run of the house with Paizly. I don't want to leave him locked up in his bedroom for the weekend. Especially since he is scratching at the rug by the door as it is in the mornings when he can hear me getting ready. We lock him in there at night so we can sleep. Otherwise he runs all over the place and gets Paizly all excited.

Again, thank you all for the responses. I will be taking everything into consideration and will discuss it again with Bruce. We will probably end up taking him with us. I just feel bad doing that because of the long car ride up and back. Although my parents would probably like it. They will be up there with us and can spend time with him since they didn't get to during our vacation. My dad said I could leave him at their house when I stopped by to pick up Paizly on the way home after vacation. LOL

[kitten645]

I would take him with you. Not so much for the bonding issue. I think eventually they will work it out. But you'll worry all weekend and I think it's good to socialize him more. I wish Calvin wouldn't freak out when we have to go in the car/carrier. I'd love to take him out and about sometimes but all he's ever known is this apartment. If Jax likes "vacationing" I would encourage that.
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[Medusa]

normally we do not leave them alone together in the house while we are out or at night. Because Bruce is afraid he is too small and will get stuck somewhere! However, one time Bruce was not home and I ran out for a while and I did leave them alone in the house together. All was well when I returned (of course it was only about 10 minutes total).

We do not have anyone to come check on Paizly since we are only gone for the weekend. And I don't have anyone close enough to come check on them just once.

This answered the question for me. Better to be safe than sorry. You've got plenty of time to allow them to bond and love one another. I'd take him.