Dilema should I rehome Star?

[StarandBratsmom]

I am NOT picking on you. But, less than 2 hours ago you posted that Star was NOT doing well outside. How is she now doing better? Did she all of a sudden stop acting depressed and staring at you through the window?

Come on. Your husband is a grown man (presumably). Bring your cat inside- where it wants to be. Do your part- keep her out of the bedroom, vacuum, keep his hands away from the cat. Surely he can deal with what seems to be a mild irritant that might have nothing to do with Star.

She was your cat way before him, and sadly, the way things can work out today in marriages, she might be there long past him.

I know I had said that she seemed off a few hours before replying to post but she really was at least to me it seemed. She's used to being outside, since she is an outdoor/inside kitty but she wanted in and it broke my heart to say no to her. Then she just acted like she was sad, napping. I was super super upset when I wrote my first post. Then after awhile, she seemed better, she woke up and did her usual thing, explore around the yard, eat, drink, and was more like her normal self. I think I AM TAKING IT WAY HARDER than her.

I did learn a lesson today though, next time I have a cat problem, I definitely won't be coming here. After a day of the comments making me cry, it's not worth it, I will figure out my problems on my own. So much for the support.

[Grace]

Hey everyone. It's been awhile since I've visited here, I hope everyone is doing great. Alot has changed for me, I got married last summer, and now I am pregnant and due to have my daughter in July. Star has been with me pretty much the whole time.

Just thinking she may have to go, depresses me and makes me tear up, but what should I do? What is best for my husband, my baby, and for Star? What should I do?

I did learn a lesson today though, next time I have a cat problem, I definitely won't be coming here. After a day of the comments making me cry, it's not worth it, I will figure out my problems on my own. So much for the support.

And your signature - Do you have an opinion?

I'm sorry you're upset; but you did ask for help, for opinions. And you got them. Granted, not every post was what you wanted to hear - but we stated our opinions, gave you suggestions to solve your problem.

I hope you can resolve this problem without too much more angst - especially for Star.

[Catty1]

Hon, next time you are in a pet store, just ask about the allergy stuff. The answer could be really simple and inexpensive.

{{{{hugs}}}}

[Scooter's Mom]

A domesticated cat, especially one who has been an indoor cat their whole life, does not belong outdoors. I believe that if you cannot provide her the shelter she deserves, yes - you should rehome Star.

Being outdoors exposes her to not only predators such as wildlife (coyotes) but cars and weather extremes in addition to disease even if she has been vaccinated.

Good luck in your decision. I know it can't be an easy one and must be weighing heavily on your mind.

[kb2yjx]

Please read the story of the Cat of the Day today, Friday. Please bring Star back inside. And LOVE her!!!

[StarandBratsmom]

Hey everyone, it's a whole new day. I have had the chance to calm down, and so has Star. Star has NOT been an indoor cat, she has been mostly an outdoor cat with visitations both inside and outside. I live in a safe place otherwise, she wouldn't be allowed outside at all. She's be heartbroken if she weren't allowed to go outside and catch bugs and eat grass. I know because we lived in an apartment briefly. What made her sad was, our morning cuddles. Instead of them being indoors, they were outdoors. I promise you, I did not ignore her. I can't ignore her, every time I looked at her I cried. I was outside every hour playing with her. Then a couple hours later, she seemed to have gotten over not coming inside and returned to her normal self. I believe this whole ordeal was harder on me than it was on her. Keep in mind, I am just about 7 months pregnant and I am at the overly emotional stage not to mention suffer from depression.

As for the very blunt answers and opinions, yes they were not what I wanted to hear, and maybe I should have been a little more clear on how much I LOVE MY STAR, but I strongly believe we cat people can accept that not all cats are meant to be indoors. Like I said, Star absolutely loves being outside, she likes inside too. She's not completely helpless, and she isn't declawed.

Last night when my husband got home, we decided that Star could be inside, just not in our bedroom and we would deep clean every day and I will wipe her down to reduce the amount of allergens.

Yes his allergies got better after he being outside, but yesterday at work he developed another swelling, but he's on medicine and it helped. There is no telling what exactly causes his allergies but I do know I have such an awesome husband and I'd do anything for him. It was all his idea last night to keep Star in, and he's willing to tolerate a little uncomfort for my happiness and Star. Now you guys can see why I'd do anything for him, he's such a wonderful man who truly loves me.

I hope you all have a wonderful weekend.

[Asiel]

Great news about Star, and yourselves. Seems as if everything is resolved to everyone's benefit.