Dilema should I rehome Star?

[StarandBratsmom]

Thank you for your reply. Star seems better now outside. She's been exploring a little bit. I am going to talk to my husband about vacuuming daily, leaving her out of our room, and having him wash his hands. I will also bathe her regularly, she's been trained very well to deal with baths, and of course wipe her down and groom her before she comes in to help with pollen. As for the post earlier, it did make me cry, I kind of felt like she was trying to make me choose between my family and my cat, which both I love dearly. Of course I am at that stage in my pregnancy that I am emotional as it is, everything seems to set me off. I apologize for getting upset, but it really did upset me.

[Cataholic]

Thank you for your reply. Star seems better now outside. She's been exploring a little bit. .

I am NOT picking on you. But, less than 2 hours ago you posted that Star was NOT doing well outside. How is she now doing better? Did she all of a sudden stop acting depressed and staring at you through the window?

Come on. Your husband is a grown man (presumably). Bring your cat inside- where it wants to be. Do your part- keep her out of the bedroom, vacuum, keep his hands away from the cat. Surely he can deal with what seems to be a mild irritant that might have nothing to do with Star.

She was your cat way before him, and sadly, the way things can work out today in marriages, she might be there long past him.

[JustineNYC]

What happens when she realizes you aren't going to allow her inside ever again and she leaves and you never see her again? I hate to say it but if she isn't getting attention from you, I assume you and your husband work and aren't going to sit outside with her 24/7, she is going to take off and leave, she isn't going to be content staring at you through a window. Then you'll be wondering if someone else is taking care of her, or if shes been hurt or killed. I've seen it before.

[catmandu]

I agree with Justine , Stars going to become very downhearted and think its somehow her fault that shes not allowed back into the home where she previuosly knew love and companionship. Stars hurt and is sad because she doesnt know while shes a pariah.
I think that Doctor is a Cat hater , and is using your husband allergies to strike at Cats.
He sounds like a creep.
Please let your Prodigal Cat in before something happens that you will never forgive yourself for.
Being with your Mother may not be perfect, but its better than Star being outside.

[carole]

firstly it is obvious as to me you love your Star very much ,otherwise why would you even post here,and you are in a difficult situation.

I would like to tell you 99 per cent of all cats in NZ are indoor/outdoor as are mine, i am not saying it is the perfect way to be and i really am preferring indoor cats only, but it is the way here.

As for allergies,let me tell you i have been allergic to cats for many years, infact i never owned a cat for over 15 years, until my beloved Ash turned up on my doorstep, and my then young daughter begged for him to stay, so you see i had four kitties,and i am still allergic, but i take medication now and then,not too often, and i don't fuss with bathing cats,or doing anything, and they sleep in our room at nights,all three sometimes, and on the bed,my allergy has not gone,but improved so much because i have put myself in amongst it all and desensitised my self ,well that is the only explanation i have for it.

As for cats sleeping on babies,well i am sure it does happen, but how often, and really it is up to you as a responsible parent to see that it does not happen,just as you would make sure your child is protected from all harm at any time.

I do feel for you and it is hard to know what to do for the best for everyone,but i think it would be wrong to re-home her at this stage,as it might not even be the cause , there are so many allergens out there, and your Doctor obviously was not a cat lover from his absurd comments.

If worse comes to worse and you do decide to re-home her, make sure it is with someone who will love her as much as you do and you can visit,but honestly that would be the last resort.

As for Donna, i am sorry you felt upset by her comments, but i as many here do know her pretty well, she has a heart of gold, would give you the shirt off her back,and she means well ,so don't take it to heart,she has Star's best interest at heart, as i am sure you do as well.

[StarandBratsmom]

I am NOT picking on you. But, less than 2 hours ago you posted that Star was NOT doing well outside. How is she now doing better? Did she all of a sudden stop acting depressed and staring at you through the window?

Come on. Your husband is a grown man (presumably). Bring your cat inside- where it wants to be. Do your part- keep her out of the bedroom, vacuum, keep his hands away from the cat. Surely he can deal with what seems to be a mild irritant that might have nothing to do with Star.

She was your cat way before him, and sadly, the way things can work out today in marriages, she might be there long past him.

I know I had said that she seemed off a few hours before replying to post but she really was at least to me it seemed. She's used to being outside, since she is an outdoor/inside kitty but she wanted in and it broke my heart to say no to her. Then she just acted like she was sad, napping. I was super super upset when I wrote my first post. Then after awhile, she seemed better, she woke up and did her usual thing, explore around the yard, eat, drink, and was more like her normal self. I think I AM TAKING IT WAY HARDER than her.

I did learn a lesson today though, next time I have a cat problem, I definitely won't be coming here. After a day of the comments making me cry, it's not worth it, I will figure out my problems on my own. So much for the support.

[Grace]

Hey everyone. It's been awhile since I've visited here, I hope everyone is doing great. Alot has changed for me, I got married last summer, and now I am pregnant and due to have my daughter in July. Star has been with me pretty much the whole time.

Just thinking she may have to go, depresses me and makes me tear up, but what should I do? What is best for my husband, my baby, and for Star? What should I do?

I did learn a lesson today though, next time I have a cat problem, I definitely won't be coming here. After a day of the comments making me cry, it's not worth it, I will figure out my problems on my own. So much for the support.

And your signature - Do you have an opinion?

I'm sorry you're upset; but you did ask for help, for opinions. And you got them. Granted, not every post was what you wanted to hear - but we stated our opinions, gave you suggestions to solve your problem.

I hope you can resolve this problem without too much more angst - especially for Star.

[Catty1]

Hon, next time you are in a pet store, just ask about the allergy stuff. The answer could be really simple and inexpensive.

{{{{hugs}}}}

[Scooter's Mom]

A domesticated cat, especially one who has been an indoor cat their whole life, does not belong outdoors. I believe that if you cannot provide her the shelter she deserves, yes - you should rehome Star.

Being outdoors exposes her to not only predators such as wildlife (coyotes) but cars and weather extremes in addition to disease even if she has been vaccinated.

Good luck in your decision. I know it can't be an easy one and must be weighing heavily on your mind.

[kb2yjx]

Please read the story of the Cat of the Day today, Friday. Please bring Star back inside. And LOVE her!!!