I just need to talk about this....

**Husky_mom** · 09-29-2009, 08:41 AM

some men

.. and I say some as there are, maybe very well hidden, a few that are decent...

3yrs younger and first gf.. to me sounds way too immature and he freaked.. yeah he was way rude too.. I know you must be hurt as we are more into relationships than guys but don´t let him get you this way.. just not worth it.. as Tazzoe said.. hello him and move on as nothing happened... one good thing is you dated a short while.. IMO it would be worse after spending years and then getting involved trust and deeper love...

I´m a few months older than hubby and boy sometimes I feel he needs to grow up..lol...women are much wiser in that aspect...

i love you words shouldn´t be said to anyone at anytime.. only when heartfelt.. otherwise they lose the meaning..

I once had a bf that suddenly was acting strange and hanging with some girl and her group of friends, he stopped waiting for me after school when he always did... well.. female intuition kicked.. I got brave and asked him "are you going out with her?". and without doubt or remorse he said yes.. I took my dignity and walked away... he never got a hi from me ever again.. not worth even my friendship...I moved on to better things

**Genny** · 09-29-2009, 07:41 PM

Originally Posted by Husky_mom

3yrs younger and first gf.. to me sounds way too immature and he freaked..

That's pretty much what I think now that I've thought about it for awhile...I think he honestly got scared and nervous and like someone else said he didn't know how to 'break up or end a relationship' since he had never been in one so that's why he's acted like he has.
I tell you what tho...I am gonna say 'hi' just 'hi' to him next time we see each other and we're not that busy...just to let him know I'm not mad... I don't wanna look like a b***h and all. I'm just gonna be nice and say hello and leave it at that. If he wants to ever talk or be friends fine--me sayin hi should let him know right there that I'm cool, I'm fine and not mad so if he ever wants to talk as friends we can.
Oh well, tomorrow is a new day...I'll talk to ya'll tomorrow about everything

And hey, just wanted to tell you guys thank you for writing me back about all this and listening to me... it's been great to have you guys to listen to me

**Genny** · 10-13-2009, 12:35 AM

I dunno why, but I just kinda feel like I should let you guys know how things have been going w/ me and Jordan.
Well-we are completely broke up-that's for sure. I haven't talked to him AT ALL since the night we broke up. The only time we have talked is when we had to at work-like for work if I needed to ask him somethin--that's all.
I feel baby-ish in a way by not talkin, but then it's like so hard to actually do it, ya know? He's been right there soooo many times and I could have said hi or whatever, but I can't make myself do it. Like I am completely over him now-I don't cry or anything about him anymore-like for over a week after the break-up I cried like everyday--I know it's pitiful but I just missed being w/ him. I got so use to seeing him everyday and going places and then it's like it's over and so that's why I cried I guess, but anyways I am over him now. Whew-that feels good to say...I don't think I've actually told myself that until just now. I don't know why but it still hurts when I see him at work and he walks right by me and won't say anything at all.
And guess what? This girl at work (we use to be good friends) I guess we're still friends but she ticks me off sometimes cause she flirts w/ Jordan all the time at work. I know we're not goin out but it's like--I dunno--ya'll know what I mean-weird watchin your ex-bf talkin to another girl right in front of you

but I guess it's somethin I'll have to deal with. I dunno...anyways I'm over him now and also just wanted to thank you guys for being there for me when we broke up...your words mean alot

**Karen** · 10-13-2009, 02:20 AM

I am glad you are feeling better about things, kiddo. All part of growing up, I guess. Sending you a hug!

**karyn674** · 10-13-2009, 06:53 AM

Dear Genny,

No.1 When guys say the fricking sentence so early in the relationship: I love you!.........RUN!!!!!!!! Means only they have no idea what love is!!!

No.2 I wouldn't go out with someone working in the same place I work for the reason you have to see him every day if it is over! Even if you do keep on going out, after sometime, he'll start geting jelous or make you feel jelous. It just doesn't work!

No. 3 Now you do understand that he was lying to you when saying that he loved you.....so why on earth should you speak to him in the first place?!!

No. 4 Just take the attitude as if he is not there or transparent/invisible, you will see then he'll try to make himself noticeble!

No. 5 Past experiences are there to teach us. Learn from it and move on. Don't show him he's hurting you because he will not stop doing these silly things. If he spoke to a friend of yours in your presence and just ignored you, that is what he wants from you....Ignore him!!!!

Take care and may you find the address for happiness very soon

Karen x x