I just need to talk about this....

[beeniesmom]

I'm really sorry about what happened. Maybe he will come around. Maybe he got scared since this is his first real relationship.

[kitten645]

I would just steer clear of him. Even if he "comes around" I'd be worried he'd break your heart again. Some men are just that way. Go on with you life and don't waste another moment or bit of energy on him. You can't do anything to change the past. You can only control the present. I hope you feel better soon
Claudia

[Genny]

I'm really sorry about what happened. Maybe he will come around. Maybe he got scared since this is his first real relationship.

That's the only thing I can come up with. Maybe he really is scared to be with anybody... He said he had never had a gf and never kissed anyone before... I dunno... I just think about him a lot, ya know? especially at night...cause we use to stay up all night texting each other after he'd get off work at 9:30 and 10:30

[Genny]

I'm really sorry about what happened. Maybe he will come around. Maybe he got scared since this is his first real relationship.

And you know, why didn't he tell me this stuff sooner...like on our first or second date? He waited too long...it's like he let me get to where I cared about him and then he decides to let me know he's not ready... It's sooooo complicated

[happylabs]

I don't claim to understand men and I am 49,was married for 17 years to the love of my life when he left me for an old college girlfriend.

I agree with the others comments. I would move on. I hate to say this but it sounds to me like he is interested in someone else or why would he feel awkward about talking to you or looking at you. He is feeling guilty about something. Also, I find it hard to believe at 18 that you were his first girlfriend ever.

At least you are young. I am old and trying to meet someone. It is a lot harder at my age.

Hang in there.

[Genny]

I don't claim to understand men and I am 49,was married for 17 years to the love of my life when he left me for an old college girlfriend.

I agree with the others comments. I would move on. I hate to say this but it sounds to me like he is interested in someone else or why would he feel awkward about talking to you or looking at you. He is feeling guilty about something. Also, I find it hard to believe at 18 that you were his first girlfriend ever.

At least you are young. I am old and trying to meet someone. It is a lot harder at my age.

Hang in there.

I don't know I really think I was his first gf, as weird as that may sound for me to say I believe him. He says he's only been friends w/ girls and from the way he was when ever we were together I think he was telling the truth about that. He never knew for anything for us to do. He always let me choose what we could do when we were out. I think it's cause he didn't really know cause he had never done stuff like that before.
You might be right about him liking someone else. I hope not even though I don't see us ever getting back together... but I just hope that's not why he ended our relationship. It doesn't seem like he had enough time to be with anybody else when we were dating cause we were always together unless one of us was working. We didn't get to stay out 'late' cause of my mom's strict rules but every night he was off we would go out and every day I was off we would go out then too. Who knows?? I wanna text him and talk to him...but I don't wanna sound needy and I'm kinda afraid since he seems to be avoiding me at work that he might ignore my texts and I really really don't want him to ignore me cause right now if I texted him and he didn't text me back it would hurt all over again...

[dukedogsmom]

Welcome to the wonderful world of relationships. Men are very strange creatures. He shouldn't have been saying he loved you. Those are some words you don't mess around with. I honestly don't know what was going through his mind. Just chalk it up as experience and move on. I hate to tell you this but there's more ahead. Just part of life. Be careful not to get too close too quickly. Maybe you spent too much time together?

[Genny]

I don't know if it was cause we spent too much time together, I don't think so really...my mom said she thinks it's cause I never told him that I loved him. I dunno about that either tho...I mean he did say it quite alot, but I don't think that's why...you know just cause I never said it...who knows??
But today at work is was weird being around him...he is so rude to me now...not rude really...just ignores me and acts like we're strangers...my friend and I were talkin and he comes in and tells her hi and doesn't say anything to me We haven't 'talked' since the night he texted me all that crap... You think he thinks that I'm mad at him? I'm hurt but not mad...I can get over it...I don't want to never talk to him again..I'd rather be friends than nothin at all, ya know? Should I say hi to him next time we see each other at work??

[kitten645]

Honey as they say, with friends like that, who needs enemies! You have friends. Good, decent, deserving friends that would never treat you like that. At best, his behaviour was disrespectful. At worse, downright cruel. Who needs THAT? I say ignore him and move on. Don't waste another breath or thought on him.
Claudia