The frustrations of needy, clingy men!!

[RICHARD]

Don't ever date anyone you meet on the internet.

That 'cute' guy that sent you a pic, his 'resume' and all the other good shiat is way too good to be true.

They are not going to tell you they snore, have a piercing laugh that makes dogs bark in a 30 block radius, they will pick their high school weight, picture and grade school head 'o' hair and mention that in any email.

They won't tell you about the arrest for public intoxication or the 'help' they gave a kid at the restroom in the park. They all have money, nice cars and houses they own.

They don't smoke-ciggies, do drink socially-every time they go out in public, love horses (racing) and like to read-Hustler, Juggs and the other periodicals that have scantily clad women on the cover. They love the theater, movies! Callie Does Cah Lee Fuh Nee Ah and burlesque.

They toss out old 'football' injuries to get a sympathetic massage.

Men have bankrupted the country, started wars, cheated on SO, killed, stolen and broken pretty much any law you can think of.


But, hey, they always need a second chance and have changed.

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I have met tons of wonderful people on the net and on PT. I refuse to date or get involved with any one of them-not becuase they are not interesting-I just don't want anyone to get stuck with the jerk that I am.

There is the old idea of not wanting to buy a car without driving it first.

MY last GF I courted for almost 9 months before we became an item. I wanted to make sure she knew that I was interested in her. Before her I met a gal who was rarin' to get things started -before we even went on a real date.
I made the right choice then.


Take you time and find out who is really on the other end of the wire.
If you have top google them or do a background check on them, you are wasting your time.

[ramanth]

My sister met her future husband online. It can work.

[davidpizzica]

My sister met her future husband online. It can work.

I agree it can work. I met Moosmom through PT and she is the most beautiful person I've ever met.

[Taz_Zoee]

Sorry Richard, I met my boyfriend online and we've been together almost 6 years. I also know several other people (including my sister) who have found love online.

[kitten645]

There are wack jobs everywhere...the point is to recognize them and turn heels in the opposite direction. This guy is clearly a whack job.
Who needs the agrevation? I often do the old..."Do I get dressed, drive 20miles and end up with a dud?" or do I stay home with a good movie and the company of kitties I LOVE? It's rarely a choice I have to think much about.
On the flip side, I did read a funny book recently and the author says that at least every date you go on gives you a story. Good, bad, funny...it's still a story.
But back to the point..you don't want to have a stalker story!
Claudia

[lvpets2002]

Thank You Claudia & well put.. Thats for sure my thoughts.. Thats why my door stays closed more than open..

There are wack jobs everywhere...the point is to recognize them and turn heels in the opposite direction. This guy is clearly a whack job.
Who needs the agrevation? I often do the old..."Do I get dressed, drive 20miles and end up with a dud?" or do I stay home with a good movie and the company of kitties I LOVE? It's rarely a choice I have to think much about.
On the flip side, I did read a funny book recently and the author says that at least every date you go on gives you a story. Good, bad, funny...it's still a story.
But back to the point..you don't want to have a stalker story!
Claudia

[pomtzu]

There are a lot of good and honest people on the internet looking for an honest relationship, but I don't know that I would ever go that route. A few people that I know have, and ended up with a gem.
A bittersweet story is of the former h.r. manager where I worked. After a lousy marriage and divorce, she met a guy on line and they eventually married and had several wonderful years together before she was diagnosed with an inoperable brain tumor. He was her angel all the way to the end - being her nurse, cook, housekeeper, etc. - all while he had a full time job outside the home. She lived for 18 months after her diagnosis, but probably wouldn't have made it that long without his support. She was only in her mid 50's when she passed.

[RICHARD]

On the flip side, I did read a funny book recently and the author says that at least every date you go on gives you a story. Good, bad, funny...it's still a story.

And the best sellers are the Ann Rule murder/mystery tomes!


People are on their best behavior when they want or need. It's when think you really know them that you get into trouble-It even can happen when you see a person every fricking day.

Boy, Am I glad there aren't any FEMALE stalkers.

[Daisy and Delilah]

I have a good friend that met her husband online. They are a match made in heaven, so to speak. They are so perfect for each other, it's almost scary. So far, they've been together for 7 years and their lives are perfect.

I have to look at all the people that meet via PT. Some of the nicest people I've ever had the pleasure of knowing.

However, if somebody is that pushy, he's got problems, no matter where you meet him.

My daughter met a guy through her work that fell in love with her the day he met her. After a short time, she agreed to have dinner with him. The date was like a marriage proposal. Flowers, candles, champagne, the works. She was immediately put off by the hoopla and told him it was too much. He was devastated and completely heartbroken. He couldn't understand what he'd done wrong. For a long time, I was worried that he would stalk her. Fortunately, he didn't. I don't think he talks to her anymore at all though. Some people just set themselves up for a fall and it makes no sense.

[jennielynn1970]

Well, I did put the guy in his place and told him that he freaked me out. He was sooo apologetic. He just said he was excited to meet me and that the fact that I canceled made him sad (or something to that effect).

I just said I can talk to him, we can get to know eachother, but I have no idea when we'll meet, if we'll meet. I just want to feel comfortable getting to know him better, and that him being needy and clingy is totally not cool and just not what I'm looking for. He's been not too bad, but I did mention it again today, because again he made a comment about if we'll meet or whatever, and I was just like, I don't know and I won't be made to feel guilty to meet someone. He DIDN'T make me feel that way, but I did put it out there, like, don't use any guilt trips, cause they aren't going to work.

SO, I am giving it a chance, I know he is a little much to handle with his emotions, but I think if he calms down and just treats me like a regular person instead of saying how wonderful and sweet I am, I might just not throw up.

[Catty1]

RICHARD - here is a list from a Google search.

I guess stalking is an equal-opportunity employer!
http://www.google.ca/search?client=f...=Google+Search

Interestingly, though, females tend to pursue doctors and therapists!

[lvpets2002]

Interestingly, though, females tend to pursue doctors and therapists!

That is until you have to work with them being A*%@#Holes in Aviation && then you want nothing to do with doctors & therapists or lawyers..

[RICHARD]

RICHARD - here is a list from a Google search.

I guess stalking is an equal-opportunity employer!
http://www.google.ca/search?client=f...=Google+Search

Interestingly, though, females tend to pursue doctors and therapists!

NO thanks.

I try to meet my stalkers in person, not over the internet.

I where I worked, as soon as a new doctor showed up, you could smell the pheromones in the air. It was rather sad to see them act that way. Most of them ended up being real whack jobs.

THere was a woman who I worked with that found out where my mom worked and went to 'visit' her there, because I didn't come out of my office for two days-I was working on a project-She wanted to find out why I was so busy...

Effing weird.

[Catty1]

RICHARD, it isn't a list of stalkers, it's a list of search results ABOUT female stalkers (and there are some males in the mix, as many of the results are from studies).

[RICHARD]

RICHARD, it isn't a list of stalkers, it's a list of search results ABOUT female stalkers (and there are some males in the mix, as many of the results are from studies).

I know.....I was just making a joke.