The frustrations of needy, clingy men!!

**ramanth** · 03-02-2009, 04:41 PM

My sister met her future husband online. It can work.

**davidpizzica** · 03-02-2009, 05:19 PM

Originally Posted by ramanth

My sister met her future husband online. It can work.

I agree it can work. I met Moosmom through PT and she is the most beautiful person I've ever met.

**Taz_Zoee** · 03-02-2009, 05:40 PM

Sorry Richard, I met my boyfriend online and we've been together almost 6 years. I also know several other people (including my sister) who have found love online.

**kitten645** · 03-02-2009, 09:33 PM

There are wack jobs everywhere...the point is to recognize them and turn heels in the opposite direction. This guy is clearly a whack job.
Who needs the agrevation? I often do the old..."Do I get dressed, drive 20miles and end up with a dud?" or do I stay home with a good movie and the company of kitties I LOVE? It's rarely a choice I have to think much about.
On the flip side, I did read a funny book recently and the author says that at least every date you go on gives you a story. Good, bad, funny...it's still a story.
But back to the point..you don't want to have a stalker story!

Claudia

**lvpets2002** · 03-03-2009, 10:35 AM

Thank You Claudia & well put.. Thats for sure my thoughts.. Thats why my door stays closed more than open..

Originally Posted by kitten645

There are wack jobs everywhere...the point is to recognize them and turn heels in the opposite direction. This guy is clearly a whack job.
Who needs the agrevation? I often do the old..."Do I get dressed, drive 20miles and end up with a dud?" or do I stay home with a good movie and the company of kitties I LOVE? It's rarely a choice I have to think much about.
On the flip side, I did read a funny book recently and the author says that at least every date you go on gives you a story. Good, bad, funny...it's still a story.
But back to the point..you don't want to have a stalker story!

Claudia

**pomtzu** · 03-03-2009, 11:09 AM

There are a lot of good and honest people on the internet looking for an honest relationship, but I don't know that I would ever go that route. A few people that I know have, and ended up with a gem.
A bittersweet story is of the former h.r. manager where I worked. After a lousy marriage and divorce, she met a guy on line and they eventually married and had several wonderful years together before she was diagnosed with an inoperable brain tumor. He was her angel all the way to the end - being her nurse, cook, housekeeper, etc. - all while he had a full time job outside the home. She lived for 18 months after her diagnosis, but probably wouldn't have made it that long without his support. She was only in her mid 50's when she passed.

**RICHARD** · 03-03-2009, 11:23 AM

Originally Posted by kitten645

On the flip side, I did read a funny book recently and the author says that at least every date you go on gives you a story. Good, bad, funny...it's still a story.

And the best sellers are the Ann Rule murder/mystery tomes!

People are on their best behavior when they want or need. It's when think you really know them that you get into trouble-It even can happen when you see a person every fricking day.

Boy, Am I glad there aren't any FEMALE stalkers.

**Daisy and Delilah** · 03-03-2009, 11:31 AM

I have a good friend that met her husband online. They are a match made in heaven, so to speak. They are so perfect for each other, it's almost scary. So far, they've been together for 7 years and their lives are perfect.

I have to look at all the people that meet via PT. Some of the nicest people I've ever had the pleasure of knowing.

However, if somebody is that pushy, he's got problems, no matter where you meet him.

My daughter met a guy through her work that fell in love with her the day he met her. After a short time, she agreed to have dinner with him. The date was like a marriage proposal. Flowers, candles, champagne, the works. She was immediately put off by the hoopla and told him it was too much. He was devastated and completely heartbroken. He couldn't understand what he'd done wrong. For a long time, I was worried that he would stalk her. Fortunately, he didn't. I don't think he talks to her anymore at all though. Some people just set themselves up for a fall and it makes no sense.

**jennielynn1970** · 03-03-2009, 11:51 AM

Well, I did put the guy in his place and told him that he freaked me out. He was sooo apologetic. He just said he was excited to meet me and that the fact that I canceled made him sad (or something to that effect).

I just said I can talk to him, we can get to know eachother, but I have no idea when we'll meet, if we'll meet. I just want to feel comfortable getting to know him better, and that him being needy and clingy is totally not cool and just not what I'm looking for. He's been not too bad, but I did mention it again today, because again he made a comment about if we'll meet or whatever, and I was just like, I don't know and I won't be made to feel guilty to meet someone. He DIDN'T make me feel that way, but I did put it out there, like, don't use any guilt trips, cause they aren't going to work.

SO, I am giving it a chance, I know he is a little much to handle with his emotions, but I think if he calms down and just treats me like a regular person instead of saying how wonderful and sweet I am, I might just not throw up.