When Hannah was an infant I was always holding her... always. when she napped I usually held her or put her in her boppy right next to me. But she did sleep in her crib at night. But that was a choice we made. I don't look down on people who co sleep and I don't think they all end up with clingy high maintenance children... sure some do but so do some kids who sleep in their own room. I don't think sleeping arrangement dictates what the child will turn out like.

Hannah has always slept in her own room and she certainly doesn't have any seperation anxiety nor do I leave her to cry alone in the dark. I do NOT EVER just let her cry. If she cries when put to bed (this usually only happens if she is sick anyway) I will cuddle her until she is ready to go back to bed (usually only a couple minutes). Most nights I take her to bed at her bedtime and she goes right to sleep. she has no issues with going to strangers and she is very independant.

I don't think that having her sleep in her own crib is going to doom her to a life of anxiety and abandonment issues... just like I don't think that a child is doomed to become clingy because they co sleep. Some children do fine with co sleeping and some children do fine with being in their own room.