a question re engagements....

[Emeraldgreen]

My husband and I lived together for 8.5 years before we were married. For 8 years we wore silver Hawaiian wedding bands that match that we picked up for 25.00 each. We love them and called them our 'going steady' rings.

Then he surprised me and asked me to marry him and had a ring for me. He had a local native artist design it. We bought him a ring to match the new one but our only dilemma was that we missed wearing our other rings. So now we switch them on the 21st of every month so each ring gets worn every other month.

[RICHARD]

And then you have Jennifer Wilbanks......

[Twisterdog]

I don't know anyone who was "suprised" with a ring. My husband proposed and later we went together to pick out the rings (his too.)

But that doesn't make very good television!

I, also, don't know anyone who did not pick out her own ring. My husband and I picked out our rings together after he proposed, as did everyone I know.

Perish the thought that my husband, bless his heart, would have picked out a ring for me on his own and surprised me with it. It would have been some huge, cocktail-ring looking thing ... not me at all.

[carole]

thanks everyone, made interesting reading, seems it is a bit of everything over there, here is it as i said you go pick the rings out together, thank goodness, i too would hate anyone picking out my ring for me,but for those who did, it seems they knew your taste very well and you were more than happy with their choice,ten out of ten for them.

[catland]

We picked out our rings together. Instead of an engagement ring, I opted for a single wedding band that has a diamond in it. Because of the design, it actually stands alone quite nicely. (some engagement/wedding rings are designed to look incomplete on their own and complete together).

[jazzcat]

Richard surprised me with an engagement ring. He had it made, a 2 carat blue sapphire, and I LOVE it. When it came time to get the wedding rings we picked them out together and we got a diamond ring guard to go around my sapphire. My ring guard has broken and been repaired several times over the past 18 years but it finally broke beyond repair last month. I'm hoping "Santa" will bring me a new wedding band or at least a gift card to get one. I've been looking around and dropping some big hints for a diamond wrap to go around the sapphire. I hope I can get something soon because I feel naked without my wedding set.

[sparks19]

I actually don't know anyone who picked out their own engagement ring lol. It was always a surprise... you know... guy gets down on one knee and opens the ring box sorta thing.

But as far as the actual wedding rings go I think most people pick them out together.

[catnapper]

My husband's taste is jewelry is FAR from the same as mine. Oh God, his taste is awful! I actually bought my ring while we were dating, handed it him and told him to give it to me when he was ready. So a few months later, he proposed with the ring I gave him. I'm getting a new ring for Christmas, because I hate wearing the engagement ring (it keeps getting caught on things and just not practical for the work I do) He bought a ring for me and I made him take it back. We picked out one together.... in other words, he was present while I picked out hte new ring. I have to have it made for me because the one they had on display is white gold and I hate white gold.

[Grace]

I don't have an engagement ring - MY choice. My wedding band is a plain, narrow gold band. That's what I wanted. He doesn't wear a ring. Neither of us is big into jewelry, I guess.

[Edwina's Secretary]

For those whose husbands picked out the ring on his own...did you pick out his ring (if he wears one)?

Just curious....

[Andie]

For those whose husbands picked out the ring on his own...did you pick out his ring (if he wears one)?

Just curious....

I actually picked out and bought Dustin an "Engagement" ring. He proceeded to lose it. Thankfully it was only a $10 ring. I'm going to weld his wedding band to his hand.

[ramanth]

When my BIL proposed to my sister, he had already bought the ring.

Andy proposed, then we went out together and picked our rings.

Not sure how either of our parents did it.

[CathyBogart]

He proposed, and then I picked out the ring. Our tastes are very similar though, so I think I would have loved anything he chose for me.

One chain of jewelers near me has a deal where a man can buy a simple solitaire to propose with and then bring it back, and use the cost of that ring towards the ring the bride chooses. I like that.

[Taz_Zoee]

One chain of jewelers near me has a deal where a man can buy a simple solitaire to propose with and then bring it back, and use the cost of that ring towards the ring the bride chooses. I like that.

The Shane Company! LOL I hate those commercials!

I think I would be happy with whatever Bruce picked out. I've told him SEVERAL times that I like simple and small. I don't wear a lot of jewelry and do not need a large setting or anything like that. Honestly, I'd be happy with just a plain band. But I do not hear wedding bells in my near future anyway.