Your friend makes so much sense and i love the way she put that to you,it takes time Mary, some of us sooner, some of us much later, when i lost my sooti, i grieved constantly for over three months, infact it was not really healthy the way i grieved in a sense, sure i cryed, but life just seemed so empty ,and i had my hubby ,kids and Ash,at the time,to think about,but i was consumed with it all, especially guilt as well,it was not until my sweet lexie arrived, that the grief i felt eased, and i got back to normal, he has never left my thoughts,and will always hold a special place in my heart,as Puddy will with you.

You take care now and remember it is only very early days yet, you are doing extremely well,HUGS.