What do you guys think about liking someone over the internet?

[jenluckenbach]

I would very much like to relate an experience that happened to me. And even though it is NOT the exact same type of relationship, it might help you to understand how things might go wrong.

I made a friend (what I thought was a very dear, and close same sex friend) over the internet. we were compatible and had many a wonderful conversation. I often thought that if we lived closer we could possibly be best "real-life" friends. Many of the same likes and dislikes and ideals.

But one incident (the actual reality that we might actually be able to meet in person) turned this person into someone I did NOT know. All of a sudden the friend that I thought I had made was gone because she was obviously not the person I believed her to be. And let me tell you........it hurt BAD. And I am certainly old enough to know better. But I was taken in by someone who could talk the talk.

So, even though I truly believe that you may be able to find someone very special through the internet, please be OVERLY cautious. People can pretend to be anyone they want through their writing.

Good luck.

[Giselle]

Personally, it concerns me that this person would say that he loves you without having met you. It's kind of cute that he would be so naïve as to claim his love for you without meeting you, but it's quite frightening as well. I really REALLY do not trust the Internet. You met this boy casually through Myspace, correct? That is not safe AT ALL. The media and parents are truly horrified by the whole concept of Myspace and it's easy to see why. I don't know how the rest of you met your spouse, but you most likely met him or her through the direction and authority of an online match site. These sites often perform extensive and thorough screening before they allow you access to the files of single individuals. Though there are flaws, they are, for the most part, relatively effective.

Myspace, as I'm sure you know, is full of frauds. Several friends of mine got their pictures stolen and used on other people's pages. That is why you'll often see young girls type their name or phrases over their picture so that nobody can crop it out and steal the picture.

The Internet is a powerful tool, but because it is so powerful, it is extremely dangerous as well. When you meet this boy, PLEASE bring an adult with you. Your friends are not that much mature than you but an adult is.

[carole]

It sounds like you have been sensible about this relationship, by first telling your parents, arranging to meet in a public place with friends, two good steps in the right direction I think, however just remember to be cautious, on the internet you can be whoever you want to be.

Internet dating is not uncommon today infact it is probably the way many people meet these days, and some like Catnapper and my own two friends who met on the internet and married, had the wedding planned before meeting, he was an american,actually go on to have lifelong lasting relationships, if it is meant to be it will be, but just be realistic and be prepared that it might not be all it seems, but then again maybe it is, who really knows, I think him telling you he loves you is not necessarily a bad thing, and i honestly believe you can fall in love with someone over the internet, especially if you do voice chat.

I wish you all the best, but again just continue to be sensible and cautious and good luck.

oops i just read Giselles response, and now I know that this site you met him is not a very safe one, so i cannot say it enough BE CAREFUL and CAUTIOUS.

[king2005]

The only problem I have with the guy your talking to is that hes saying he loves you... THATS a big hint right there, that all he wants is to get into your pants!!

I met greg online & I'm meeting him tomorrow.. Not once did he say he loved me, wanted to marry me, & so on. Yes its a date, but its also a friendship get together.

Has this guy brought up sex? or mentioned anything sexual? If so PLEASE keep away from him!!!

If I had a car I would meet up with you & keep my eye on him.. I don't trust his kind at all!!! I know he sounds wonderful & that he says he loves you, but you cannot love someone you have never met!

I REALLY REALLY like Greg a lot! But I don't love him, as I've never met him. If things work out, then maybe a couple weeks down the road I'll be in love with him.. but not just by chatting with him online...

If you wanna talk more, just PM me

[buttercup132]

No no King belive me its not at all like that like I was joking around once cause I said ya well you like to have sex with cows ya ok random but ya and hes was all confused and im like you just wish I was the cow and he's like no..not really so that says something right there. And I didnt mean meet up in my house NO WAY!!!! I ment in a public place with freinds my guy freinds are the same age as him so ya I dont think he would do anything. I'm not dumb enough to go meet him all alone in some like dark ally...and it was over myspace but I added him so it;s not like he's after me.

[jackie]

People can be a lot different in real life.

[Miss Z]

As others have said, just be on guard when you meet him. I think you're being very sensible about it all, personally I would never do it but you seem to have thought it through and I don't see much of a reason why you can't just see him. But if there's ANYTHING you are unsure of about him, run like the wind. I hope everything works out for you

[buttercup132]

Belive me I'm a worry wart abou everything and need tons of security before doing anything like that. Heck I'm even kind of scared meeting the PTer's in the summer.

[moosmom]

I've had alot of different people who met their soulmate on the internet. Those are the lucky ones. I am very skeptical when it comes to meeting someone on the internet, only because you never know who you're communicating with. There are alot of perverts out there that prey on vulnerable people, especially the younger ones. You just never know. Maybe that's why I'm single. But I'd rather be single and alive than meeting someone unknown online and ending up dead. JMO.

[BC_MoM]

I strongly disagree with everyone here. I think meeting over the internet is brainless.

True Pedaphiles are very clever in the way they lure in victims. They have a sequence they follow for their victims. A step-by-step list on how to lure you.

You've heard his voice - IMO, that means nothing.
You've seen pictures - well, heck.. I could easily find a gallery with pictures kids have taken at their school with their friends to trick you.

What's even more irresponsible is not telling your parents about him. Your parents have a RIGHT to know what you are doing and who you are talking to on the internet.

My best friend's Mom was almost beaten to death by her husband, who she met online. She'd known him online for 5 years and they had talked on the phone, mailed each other, etc., and one year she picked up hers bags, her kids, and they flew to Australia to go live with him. Little did she know who he really was, deep inside. He beat her kids, and eventually beat her one day. They got away from him eventually, but no one knows where they are anymore. All I remember is my friend telling me on the phone one day was "I just wish I was back home in Canada".

[zoomer]

Just be careful the internet can be a bad place if people make it a bad place.