SOME things are better left unsaid...

**Pawsitive Thinking** · 03-15-2006, 04:19 AM

I'm guessing she doesn't have pets so doesn't understand the deep bond that animals and humans can have..............Don't let her insenstivity get to you, we all understand

**jenluckenbach** · 03-15-2006, 05:09 AM

Donna, I understand how insensitive that sounded and of course, we all know that would not be an option, but just for one moment, could you please think about what you said about friendship? You said.......

Friends should be able to tell friends anything.

Well, I believe your friend thought she could mention this option to you. YES, she could have said it in a nicer manner but I am certain she did not mean to make you feel bad.

{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}

**anna_66** · 03-15-2006, 09:24 AM

Originally Posted by Lobodeb

In my opinion, true friends are supposed to tell you the truth no matter how much it hurts. And to a non-animal lover, what she said would have been the truth. BUT, we here know that truth to be a bit different. I'm willing to go out on a limb and assume that all of us here at PT would rather our pets eat before we do, but not everyone thinks that way. Those that don't think that way, think we're crazy.

I couldn't have said it better myself, exactly what I was wanting to say.

I'm sure she didn't mean to hurt your feelings, obviously she's just not the animal lover you are.
I'd give it a few days and call her back.

**ramanth** · 03-15-2006, 09:27 AM

*hugs*

**lizbud** · 03-15-2006, 12:13 PM

Could be that you just caught her in a harried or anxious mood herself.
If she has small children who were pass ready for bed, I totally could
understand.A lot of times when people want to talk about problems
with a friend, that's all they want is to talk.The problems come in when
they feel they must make suggestions to help.

**Don Juan's mom** · 03-15-2006, 04:19 PM

I'm in a similar boat myself. Just lucky I had a $2 off coupon for Nutro Max Cat and a credit slip for Pet Food Express, otherwise I might have had to raid the sample baskets at the Humane Society the other night.

I agree with the folks who say that your friend may have spoken without thinking. Just let her know that it hurt, then forgive her.

Are your kitties giving you purr therapy? Don Juan is as good a friend as ever, and Zerlina always makes me smile with her sweet face and antics. I sure as heck wouldn't give them up.

Liz

**moosmom** · 03-15-2006, 04:45 PM

Most people just don't get it, that why you have us

You got THAT one right!!!

I TRY to let things like that roll off my back. But yesterday really just got to me. Susan used to foster Seeing Eye Dogs for Fidelco years ago. I'll see her at her son's Bar Mitzfah on April 7th and everything will be fine. I always try to give people the benefit of the doubt.

In the meantime, I'll just keep plugging away.

I got my HP covering my back.

**dukedogsmom** · 03-15-2006, 06:00 PM

I haven't read any replies but that sounds like one friend you could do without. What a cold, insensitive person.

**carole** · 03-15-2006, 06:15 PM

Sadly Donna some people have never experienced the magical bond of love we have for our pets, and IMO they are missing out big time, your friend is obviously one of them, don't take it too hard and she probably meant well, but it was a rather insensitive comment, but if you value her friendship, try and let it go and just remember not everyone is as fortunate as ourselves to experience that special love with our pets, feel sorry for her really, and Donna I am sorry to hear things are so damn difficult right now,life is extremely tough at times, know you are in my thoughts and i am sending positive vibes for things to improve and soon. take care and HUGS.