SOME things are better left unsaid...

[moosmom]

I was talking to my childhood friend Susan. I told her I was under an extreme amount of stress with all the financial problems I have, from not working for so long. That and the fact that I had a panic attack tonight, worrying about how I was going to feed myself AND my cats on the last $2.07 I have till I have (my paycheck from BB&B HAS to go to the car company or they'll repossess it). She told me, "I don't mean to sound insensitive or cold, but if I were in YOUR situation and had a problem between feeding 4 cats or myself, I'd give up the cats." I told her that was NOT an option, that my financial situation wouldn't change if I DIDN'T have 4 cats because it doesn't cost THAT much to feed them, AND, it would be like giving up my children. She got a little snotty with me and said she had to go put the kids to bed.

Geez!!!! PLEASE - I'm not posting because I want sympathy. I know I just need to get over this "hump" in my life and I should be okay. But her saying that to me really hurt me. Friends should be able to tell friends anything. And for the most part we do. She knows how much my cats mean to me. (or so I thought) If I ever felt that way, I would NEVER say it out loud. There are some things that are better left unsaid, and that was one of them.

[Alysser]

I'm so sorry this happened. I understand how you feel. AN OLD friend who I am no longer friends with heard me talking about Sassy's age to me to put her to sleep and stop complaining. Seriously, I know what it feels like. I really hope things go better for you.
hugs to you,
Alyssa

[lbaker]

You are NOT alone, we are here and do understand. Have faith, and trust my dear. Can I help, of course I can, we can. If you are crazy then we all are!! And I happen to think we are a great support service. You HAVE US. You are not alone.

[luvofallhorses]

that was rude of her. Does she have any animals? I am asking, because so she knows how much you love them and that you wouldn't give them up for the world. I hope things look up for you soon, Donna! ((hugs))

[moosmom]

Thanks everyone. I KNOW everyone here understands. That's why I love this place. You guys are the best. I don't know what I'd do without you!!

I've known Susan since I was 2 years old. I'm sure she meant well, but it still hurt nonethless.

This place and you all have been a real comfort to me. Love you LOTS!!!

[Laura's Babies]

My cats would eat before I would and I would have told her that in a heartbeat. Sorry, but I think she should have offered you some help if she was a GOOD friend.... at least offer to buy them a bag of food!

[carole]

Sadly Donna some people have never experienced the magical bond of love we have for our pets, and IMO they are missing out big time, your friend is obviously one of them, don't take it too hard and she probably meant well, but it was a rather insensitive comment, but if you value her friendship, try and let it go and just remember not everyone is as fortunate as ourselves to experience that special love with our pets, feel sorry for her really, and Donna I am sorry to hear things are so damn difficult right now,life is extremely tough at times, know you are in my thoughts and i am sending positive vibes for things to improve and soon. take care and HUGS.

[Alysser]

Jackie you always seem to have wonderful advice.

[Karen]

If she's a long-time friend, wait a few weeks, and then tell her how much that hurt, then let it go.

Knowing what NOT to say is often more valuable than knowing what TO say. It's a highly underrated skill.

[dukedogsmom]

I haven't read any replies but that sounds like one friend you could do without. What a cold, insensitive person.