Donna, I understand how insensitive that sounded and of course, we all know that would not be an option, but just for one moment, could you please think about what you said about friendship? You said.......
Friends should be able to tell friends anything.
Well, I believe your friend thought she could mention this option to you. YES, she could have said it in a nicer manner but I am certain she did not mean to make you feel bad.

{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}