Despite the fact she's never had pets, if she was in your situation and someone told her to give up her kids, what would she say and how would she feel? Please excuse me, Donna, for saying this, but I'm not in a great situation now either, but my friends offer help and guidance. And we always complain to each other, it's theraputical and shoulders to cry on go both ways. I'm so deeply sorry your friend disappointed and hurt you.