SOME things are better left unsaid...

[Lobodeb]

In my opinion, true friends are supposed to tell you the truth no matter how much it hurts. And to a non-animal lover, what she said would have been the truth. BUT, we here know that truth to be a bit different. I'm willing to go out on a limb and assume that all of us here at PT would rather our pets eat before we do, but not everyone thinks that way. Those that don't think that way, think we're crazy.

Give yourself some time, then let your friend know how you feel once you've calmed down. I'm sure that if she's a true friend, she'll understand and apologize for hurting you.

((((((((((((((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))))))))))) )) to you and I'll pray that your situation improves.

[K9karen]

Despite the fact she's never had pets, if she was in your situation and someone told her to give up her kids, what would she say and how would she feel? Please excuse me, Donna, for saying this, but I'm not in a great situation now either, but my friends offer help and guidance. And we always complain to each other, it's theraputical and shoulders to cry on go both ways. I'm so deeply sorry your friend disappointed and hurt you.

[caseysmom]

Donna, Most people just don't get it, that why you have us

[jackie]

I think she is just looking out for your best interest, and spoke before she thought. I doubt she meant it to sound so harsh!

Don´t keep bad thoughts in, tell her that comment hurt you, then move on.

I am sure you don´t need anymore negativity in your life now! ((hugs))

[Pawsitive Thinking]

I'm guessing she doesn't have pets so doesn't understand the deep bond that animals and humans can have..............Don't let her insenstivity get to you, we all understand

[jenluckenbach]

Donna, I understand how insensitive that sounded and of course, we all know that would not be an option, but just for one moment, could you please think about what you said about friendship? You said.......

Friends should be able to tell friends anything.

Well, I believe your friend thought she could mention this option to you. YES, she could have said it in a nicer manner but I am certain she did not mean to make you feel bad.

{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}

[ramanth]

*hugs*

[lizbud]

Could be that you just caught her in a harried or anxious mood herself.
If she has small children who were pass ready for bed, I totally could
understand.A lot of times when people want to talk about problems
with a friend, that's all they want is to talk.The problems come in when
they feel they must make suggestions to help.

[Don Juan's mom]

I'm in a similar boat myself. Just lucky I had a $2 off coupon for Nutro Max Cat and a credit slip for Pet Food Express, otherwise I might have had to raid the sample baskets at the Humane Society the other night.

I agree with the folks who say that your friend may have spoken without thinking. Just let her know that it hurt, then forgive her.

Are your kitties giving you purr therapy? Don Juan is as good a friend as ever, and Zerlina always makes me smile with her sweet face and antics. I sure as heck wouldn't give them up.

Liz

[anna_66]

In my opinion, true friends are supposed to tell you the truth no matter how much it hurts. And to a non-animal lover, what she said would have been the truth. BUT, we here know that truth to be a bit different. I'm willing to go out on a limb and assume that all of us here at PT would rather our pets eat before we do, but not everyone thinks that way. Those that don't think that way, think we're crazy.

I couldn't have said it better myself, exactly what I was wanting to say.

I'm sure she didn't mean to hurt your feelings, obviously she's just not the animal lover you are.
I'd give it a few days and call her back.