Debbie,
I know exactly how you feel. I look at all the "senior" kitties at the Humane Society whose families have given up on them and it depresses the hell out of me. When my Dad died, I kept my word to my father to take care of his cat Tigger. Unfortunately, because Tigger was an only cat, he didn't get along with other cats. I was lucky enough to have a wonderful best friend who offered a furrrever home to him. He lived 3 years longer than my Dad. THAT is what I call a BEST friend.
I try to rescue "senior" kitties from the Humane Society, cats that have been given up by family members, who have been at the HS for longer than 2 months. So far I've had 100% placement success.
That's why I urge people to make arrangements in their wills for all their furkids in the event of their passing. My cats are already cared for should I outlive my furkids. My furkids have gotten me through the toughest of times so it's the least I can do. At least I know that my babies will be taken care of.
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