That is my way of thinking, to beable to talk about it with her, let her know I am somewhat negotiable with conditions, I know myself I was raised by fairly strict parents, I just went behind their backs and did things, not that I did anything bad, but my parents never acknowledged that as a teenager I might even be remotely interested in boys forbidding me to date until I was 16, but yes I did meet boys and guess who left home at 16 to get away from overbearing rules, some of which were not fair and I still say that today, I honestly was scared of them rather than respectful,however I feel my parents still did a good job of raising me just the same and installed some values into me,but I do not intend to bring my children up exactly how i was, I intend to be more understanding if I can be, approachable and not so strict and to hopefully give them more self esteem than I ever had, one I have had to work on extremely hard..

I admire those parents who make rules and stick with them,and believe me I have certain rules too that I will not bend on in any shape or form, I believe in being fair and for me I don't see this as a big issue, infact my only reason I am a little hesitant is incase something goes wrong and that I don't like the thought of it, it seems painful compared to ears, but some of you have assured me it is not.

Audrey your suggestion was a good one, I will indeed tell her that if she does get lazy with the cream treatment, then she will have to have it taken out and let it close up, now that she would not like one little bit.

It has been really good to read all the replies and I have welcomed them, each having different points of views, and tips for me to think on, thanks heaps everyone.

Corrina my 24 old son has no piercings or tattoos either, he is conservative in that respect,the only thing he ever did when he was like 16 was grow his hair and have it braided, he laughs about it now, and we have pics , he does shave his head now and then but that is mainly for playing sport, as it is cooler.