Thank you everyone, all your input has been appreciated, Kim I think I don't have a problem with the belly button so much as it cannot be seen unless she chooses to show it, she would not be allowed to do that at school either, we are thinking of xmas time as she has six weeks holiday to look after it, she has already shown me she can look after her ears well, so I really don't see a problem with her not looking after the belly button, so no-one can judge her by her appearance as such as it is hidden, I suppose it is like people find ears ok to pierce but that is their limit, well the belly button is mine, anything else she would not be allowed to get until she was older, and she has no wish to do that anyway.

Melissa is a pretty responsible girl for her age most of the time, and I trust she will not let me down here either, but like all teenagers she has her moments, hopefully if she gets it done she will continue looking after her skin problem too. here's hoping.