Opinions sought...teenagers especially and mothers....

[buttercup132]

i would say make her do the cream for a month bacause havin belly button periced you HAVE to look after it or else it will get severly infected and its not good and she will have to end up taking it out i got mine done when i was just turning 14 so if she is like just turned 13e then thats a little young but ya make sure she staus on top of her cream or shes not gonnna look after her ring, and who did her freinds belly button no peircings done properly bleed only the ones that are done by a unexperienced person like a freind, i would see if the other girls mom knows she got her belly button peirced

[carole]

Thank you both for your valued opinions, Yes Melissa will have to prove to me for at least up until xmas time whether she will look after her exzema(sp), of course I am thinking once she has what she wants, then she will forget about it, which really she cannot afford to as it gets way out of hand and really bad, I have no fears she will look after the piercing well, she is at the moment taking care of her ears, she just had the 2nd hole done two weeks ago and has been very diligent in taking care of them.

Her friends piercing was done by a professional, I am not sure on all the details, but something went a bit wrong, yes I will be making certain that she checks out a really good place before I consent you can bet on that.

She has assured me she just wants this done and one more in her ear, she is not into any other piercings, like her tongue,eyebrow or chin.,I would rather she wait but then I cannot find a really good reason as to why she should wait, if she is responsible enough to take care of it, and find out the info regarding it really I can see no harm, it is purely decorative after all, and I guess they do look rather nice IMO., I suppose that is why I have relented some as to my firmer NO absolutely NOT decision six months ago.

Kim i missed your post reply when I first posted this, in response back,yes the deal will be about 3 mths all together, and I guess I am more liberal, I personally donot have a real objection to it, I am just more frightened incase something goes wrong, does that mean none of your girls are allowed pierced ears either? Honestly I don't really see it as a maturity issue, more a reponsibility issue, I feel Melissa will not let me down in that department, so far looking after her ears she has been fantastic, she just has to prove herself with her skin problems or no BB piercing. Thanks Kim I do value you honest opinion.

[Roxyluvsme13]

I have 3 holes in each ear, plus the cartilage in the left ear. I think I may get a 4th hole and the other cartilage pierced, but never anything besides ears for me!

[catnapper]

Carole, they do have their ears pierced. The oldest has two holes at the bottom and one at the top of her ear. We have no problem with ear piercings. It is the others that hubby objects to, mainly because he's a teacher and knows that teachers, employers, and so on judge a kid based on what they have pierced, tatooed, etc. It might not be right, but thats the way it is. He feels that if they truly want it, then they can think of what they want and how it will reflect who they are... some day when they DO get it, thy will be old enough to know that it is what they really want and it is who they are. By then, they can then proove themselves and carry themselves in a way that they speak for themselves, not their appearance speaking for them (as is often the case in youger people).

Think about it: you are out and see 2 people with a tongue piercing. One is 15, the other in their late 20's. What do you think of the young one? Follower? Trying to be cool? What do you think about the older one? An individual? Confident? Trendy? What do you think of these people? Most often, your impression of the two people with the same piericing will be different when they are worn by two people in different age groups.... mainly because you expect the older persomn to have made the decision on what to pierce based upon a mature decision that represents who they are. Most of the time, we expect a "kid" to have done it because they saw it on their friends, on tv, in the magazines, etc and they think it'll make them a part of somethng they want ot be a part of.

Did that make sense?

[Logan]

I am beginning to think that I will NOT be getting my belly button piered, whether I lose 48 pounds or not! Earlobes are a lot easier, apparently!

Carole, Helen is 14 (will turn 15 in January). If we both hit our weight loss goal (hers is only 10-15 pounds) and keep it off, it was our agreement that we would both have our bellybuttons pierced, provided her dad agrees. She would be 15, and I'm not sure it is the right thing, but I figured if we did it together, like we have done this dieting, that would be best. And I do agree that the tradeoff is the right thing. She needs to achieve something in order to have her wish.

Logan

[areias]

I am 18, I got my tongue done when I was 15. My mom allowed me too, and went with me. I think you're right in letting her get it done. Make sure she knows that it DOES hurt, it is annoying for the first week or two, and it does get infected very easily. Plus, you can use it for leverage...if she dosen't continue with her exzema treatment, it's coming out even if you have to pry it out of her mouth. You should also make her pay for it, don't give her the money.

Allowing her to get it done ensures that she won't go and do it with a friend, and that when she gets old enough she dosen't end up with like 15 piercings on her face just to prove she was right.
And at least it's only her belly button...it could be something FAR worse.

[Toby's my baby]

I think having an insentive was a good idea, I think that if she follows through with her end you should let her get it peirced. But do the research and have HER do research too, somehow reading stuff yourself goes through you more than having it come from you mother, no offence to anyone! A lot of my friends got theirs peirce when they were around 13 so i say let her

[finn's mom]

I think you're doing the right thing. I've never seen the big deal with piercings, especially one like that where it isn't on the face, and, there for everyone in the world to see. Even those don't bother me, but, for a 13-year-old, I would think those would be a little too "grown-up." I think she's old enough to get a belly button piercing, though, they're cute. And, again, it's not like anyone will see it, unless she decides to show it, so, it shouldn't be too negative an impression on people that might judge her based on her choice of jewelry (like if she got it done in a more visible place).

And, just so you know, my belly button piercing didn't hurt at all. It hurts worse when I get my eyebrows waxed. And, I'm a total sissy with needles and pain. I know some experience anywhere from slight to excruciating pain when they have gotten anything pierced. But, my niece didn't have any problems with her belly button, and, neither did I. Your daughter will have to do what they tell her to do, as far as the maintenace goes. If she takes it seriously and follows the instructions, she should be fine. The only time mine was annoying at all, was when I'd catch my jeans on it or something, and, even then, it only briefly hurt.

I think your arrangement sounds great. Because if she can't take care of her eczema, she won't take care of the piercing correctly, either. Good move on your part! And, good luck!