Quote Originally Posted by wombat2u2004 View Post
I used to get spanked to, and my father used to say to me how lucky I was, because he used to cop it with a horse switch. My father was raised right in his opinion, and I was raised right in my opinion. I can look back now and say "Yeah, I was a real little creep and deserved what I got."
So, really what is abuse ??? Was my father abused ?? Was I abused ??? Were you abused with your spankings ??? They answer in my opinion is no. But in others opinions it may be yes.
So what is really happening in this day and age ??? We obviously have become softer in our approach to disciplinary punishment, and we have replaced that with counselling and parenting classes ??? Do you believe that the children now become better adults because of this ??? I don't believe so.
Children need to be disciplined and taught the right direction in life.
The old saying "Sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind" is what works.
I can't say that I disagree w/all you've said in this post, Wom. We have become too soft in our approach to discipline but I don't think that going in the opposite direction is the answer either. Moderation is the key for me. As for parenting classes, I said that rather tongue-in-cheek. I think that the time to take those classes, if ever, if BEFORE you have kids, not after.