I so understand being one of the parties involved is more difficult ... but it´s not like someone got punched in the nose... and even then.. the involved eventually would either ignore each other.. or laugh it out later..

name calling.. no matter how bad it is.. I think we are adults here to not make a big deal out of it... "yeah whatever you called me $%%&.. bye" no need to feed it up.. never start a fight but always end it...at least that´s what I would do.. even if it were me who got name called...

I do not like this kind of situations.. but I do find it easier to let go than let it escalade on you.. not leaning to either side.. but I think both sides need to work things out.. ignore each other... or simply let go.. and yes, that´s easy.. IMO