I have waited a few days before responding to allow time to reflect on the OP, and the subsequent posts. This is what I think.

It is all too easy to sit back and say, "oh, let it go..", "be happy...", "can't we all just get along..." when the issue isn't one pertaining to you, personally. How many times have I vented something- be it on here or IRL, only to hear, "...just get over it..." and then laughed, inside, later, when that same person voices THEIR concern to me over something else. Funny how the import of something is directly related to ones own personal involvment in the situation.

I know exactly of what ES speaks. I have seen it on here for years now and it is usually the same cast of characters, so to speak. There is nearly a fear of some sort that prevents these runaway posters from being reined in. I don't get it.

Everyone is very quick to jump down ES throat about stuff. I stand in support of her and her post. She has been called names that have astounded me. I can't think of one single person that is attacked in the manner that she is. I have seen the posts/threads, and to say, "well, you give it out, so I guess you should take it" is just so wrong, as one can see in black and white the pattern of the conversation.

Frankly, 'who started it...' IS important. Any person lying on the pavement with a bloody nose would agree with me.