Just be glad it's a friend and not family. That is what I am going through right now.

My brother and wife have been slowly easing away from our family circle for years now. With their kids and grandkids that is all they want. They have friends but no time for family.

Everytime I invite them over to see my new house or do something with them they always have something or someplace to be. That would be ok but they come to see my mother in the carehome and sometimes we run into them. They act like they can't get away quick enough.

I finally emailed them and asked if something was wrong. Their daughter said hurtful thiings were said and opinions were made so I appologized if I had hurt them in anyway and said I just wanted to be family and have a relationship.

Well you would have thought I slammed them and am a terrible person for saying this. Go figure. But it has been coming for years now. They say I am demanding when I invite them over. That I expect too much of them. One invite in a year isn't pushy as far as I can see but if they want to hold a grudge I can't do anything about it. Some people are just that way.

I would say email her but with the reaction I got I'm not an email fan now. It's hard to say what you feel in an email. You mean it to be concern but it is read as interference.

I guess you just have to accept it and go on and try to make new friends. Sometimes anything we try will just blow up in our face. I think some people are just determined to be insulted if they act hurt and won;t let you appologize. Then other times with friends they go on with other friends or boyfriends and don't know how to include just exclude. It sucks but we have to accept things we don't like in life. Make new friends and try not to worry too much about it.