What do you guys think about liking someone over the internet?

[buttercup132]

I know many people love everyone on PT very much but I want to know how you feel about this.
Theres a guy who lives like 5 hours away from me and hes always flirting and say i love you to me and stuff and its like were dating like we tell each other like evrything. But we always get into little fights like people in realation ships do.
If anyone has seen the notebook thats exactly how we act like identical to that movie. But I dont know if I'm wasting my feelings liking him or if its ment to be. He's coming down in the summer and I'm gonna meet him (yes with freinds) Iv'e herd his voice seen TONS of pictures and pretty positive hes NOT a petafile or anything. And I dont think a petafile would get in as many little fights as we do.
But after our fights we like make up and stuff and he goes back o always saying I love you. It's like were in a relationship but not. I dont know I need PT words.

[Roxyluvsme13]

Well, you know how I feel about this. But just really be careful, since you did meet him on Myspace. I think you 2 are perfect for eachother<3

[Husky_mom]

just be careful, internet is a bit tricky.............i know the feeling of having someone you can talk and feel comfortable with but just be careful about some things even if you are 100% comfortable dont be 100% open, you really dont know for sure............but whatever i´m glad you found someone you "like" we have to wait and see the outcome.......

[catnapper]

How old are you? Do your parents know about him? If your parents don't, they NEED to, ESPECIALLY when you go to meet him.

I met my husband through an internet dating site - but I was older and had life experience on my side. I was VERY cautous and never revealed anything to him other than my first name and cell number so we could talk on the phone. NOTHING ELSE. It took a few months before he knew anything more than I what I did fora living and other bland details. I never regret how I met hubby, since it turned out to be a wonderful natch, but let me tell you..... the jerks I met while I was online could boggle the mind!

[buttercup132]

Like sometimes though I tell myself no I just like him as a freind am I cant possibly like someone over the net. But then we talk and it like wow I love this kid.

[buttercup132]

How old are you? Do your parents know about him? If your parents don't, they NEED to, ESPECIALLY when you go to meet him.

I met my husband through an internet dating site - but I was older and had life experience on my side. I was VERY cautous and never revealed anything to him other than my first name and cell number so we could talk on the phone. NOTHING ELSE. It took a few months before he knew anything more than I what I did fora living and other bland details. I never regret how I met hubby, since it turned out to be a wonderful natch, but let me tell you..... the jerks I met while I was online could boggle the mind!

I'm 16 and my parents do know about him. I dont tell him like my phone number or anything he knows my name and stuff but nothing else oh other then that fact I live in Ontario and work at Pet Valu but ya. I've been talking to him since like November/December like everyday since then.

[elizabethann]

I think as long as your parents know about him, it's okay. However, I would have him go to your house and meet you in person as well as your parents before you go out (even if it's with friends). If he really likes you, he won't see a problem with this. Good luck. I hope it works out.

[racing_gurl07]

Alicia...you do have to be careful, but I did met the love of my love on the internet, and have been with him for 3 years. This might sound dumb...but i met him in person 5 days after i met him online, i was just glad that he wasnt a pervert or anything. so you can find good people online...but just be careful girl!!!

[jenluckenbach]

I would very much like to relate an experience that happened to me. And even though it is NOT the exact same type of relationship, it might help you to understand how things might go wrong.

I made a friend (what I thought was a very dear, and close same sex friend) over the internet. we were compatible and had many a wonderful conversation. I often thought that if we lived closer we could possibly be best "real-life" friends. Many of the same likes and dislikes and ideals.

But one incident (the actual reality that we might actually be able to meet in person) turned this person into someone I did NOT know. All of a sudden the friend that I thought I had made was gone because she was obviously not the person I believed her to be. And let me tell you........it hurt BAD. And I am certainly old enough to know better. But I was taken in by someone who could talk the talk.

So, even though I truly believe that you may be able to find someone very special through the internet, please be OVERLY cautious. People can pretend to be anyone they want through their writing.

Good luck.

[Giselle]

Personally, it concerns me that this person would say that he loves you without having met you. It's kind of cute that he would be so naïve as to claim his love for you without meeting you, but it's quite frightening as well. I really REALLY do not trust the Internet. You met this boy casually through Myspace, correct? That is not safe AT ALL. The media and parents are truly horrified by the whole concept of Myspace and it's easy to see why. I don't know how the rest of you met your spouse, but you most likely met him or her through the direction and authority of an online match site. These sites often perform extensive and thorough screening before they allow you access to the files of single individuals. Though there are flaws, they are, for the most part, relatively effective.

Myspace, as I'm sure you know, is full of frauds. Several friends of mine got their pictures stolen and used on other people's pages. That is why you'll often see young girls type their name or phrases over their picture so that nobody can crop it out and steal the picture.

The Internet is a powerful tool, but because it is so powerful, it is extremely dangerous as well. When you meet this boy, PLEASE bring an adult with you. Your friends are not that much mature than you but an adult is.

[carole]

It sounds like you have been sensible about this relationship, by first telling your parents, arranging to meet in a public place with friends, two good steps in the right direction I think, however just remember to be cautious, on the internet you can be whoever you want to be.

Internet dating is not uncommon today infact it is probably the way many people meet these days, and some like Catnapper and my own two friends who met on the internet and married, had the wedding planned before meeting, he was an american,actually go on to have lifelong lasting relationships, if it is meant to be it will be, but just be realistic and be prepared that it might not be all it seems, but then again maybe it is, who really knows, I think him telling you he loves you is not necessarily a bad thing, and i honestly believe you can fall in love with someone over the internet, especially if you do voice chat.

I wish you all the best, but again just continue to be sensible and cautious and good luck.

oops i just read Giselles response, and now I know that this site you met him is not a very safe one, so i cannot say it enough BE CAREFUL and CAUTIOUS.

[king2005]

The only problem I have with the guy your talking to is that hes saying he loves you... THATS a big hint right there, that all he wants is to get into your pants!!

I met greg online & I'm meeting him tomorrow.. Not once did he say he loved me, wanted to marry me, & so on. Yes its a date, but its also a friendship get together.

Has this guy brought up sex? or mentioned anything sexual? If so PLEASE keep away from him!!!

If I had a car I would meet up with you & keep my eye on him.. I don't trust his kind at all!!! I know he sounds wonderful & that he says he loves you, but you cannot love someone you have never met!

I REALLY REALLY like Greg a lot! But I don't love him, as I've never met him. If things work out, then maybe a couple weeks down the road I'll be in love with him.. but not just by chatting with him online...

If you wanna talk more, just PM me

[buttercup132]

No no King belive me its not at all like that like I was joking around once cause I said ya well you like to have sex with cows ya ok random but ya and hes was all confused and im like you just wish I was the cow and he's like no..not really so that says something right there. And I didnt mean meet up in my house NO WAY!!!! I ment in a public place with freinds my guy freinds are the same age as him so ya I dont think he would do anything. I'm not dumb enough to go meet him all alone in some like dark ally...and it was over myspace but I added him so it;s not like he's after me.

[jackie]

People can be a lot different in real life.

[Miss Z]

As others have said, just be on guard when you meet him. I think you're being very sensible about it all, personally I would never do it but you seem to have thought it through and I don't see much of a reason why you can't just see him. But if there's ANYTHING you are unsure of about him, run like the wind. I hope everything works out for you