What do you guys think about liking someone over the internet?

**buttercup132** · 04-28-2006, 02:54 PM

I know many people love everyone on PT very much but I want to know how you feel about this.
Theres a guy who lives like 5 hours away from me and hes always flirting and say i love you to me and stuff and its like were dating like we tell each other like evrything. But we always get into little fights like people in realation ships do.
If anyone has seen the notebook thats exactly how we act like identical to that movie. But I dont know if I'm wasting my feelings liking him or if its ment to be. He's coming down in the summer and I'm gonna meet him (yes with freinds) Iv'e herd his voice seen TONS of pictures and pretty positive hes NOT a petafile or anything. And I dont think a petafile would get in as many little fights as we do.
But after our fights we like make up and stuff and he goes back o always saying I love you. It's like were in a relationship but not.

I dont know I need PT words.

**Roxyluvsme13** · 04-28-2006, 02:57 PM

Well, you know how I feel about this. But just really be careful, since you did meet him on Myspace.

I think you 2 are perfect for eachother<3

**Husky_mom** · 04-28-2006, 03:04 PM

just be careful, internet is a bit tricky.............i know the feeling of having someone you can talk and feel comfortable with but just be careful about some things even if you are 100% comfortable dont be 100% open, you really dont know for sure............but whatever i´m glad you found someone you "like" we have to wait and see the outcome.......

**buttercup132** · 04-28-2006, 03:07 PM

Like sometimes though I tell myself no I just like him as a freind am I cant possibly like someone over the net. But then we talk and it like wow I love this kid.

**catnapper** · 04-28-2006, 03:06 PM

How old are you? Do your parents know about him? If your parents don't, they NEED to, ESPECIALLY when you go to meet him.

I met my husband through an internet dating site - but I was older and had life experience on my side. I was VERY cautous and never revealed anything to him other than my first name and cell number so we could talk on the phone. NOTHING ELSE. It took a few months before he knew anything more than I what I did fora living and other bland details. I never regret how I met hubby, since it turned out to be a wonderful natch, but let me tell you..... the jerks I met while I was online could boggle the mind!

**buttercup132** · 04-28-2006, 03:09 PM

Originally Posted by catnapper

How old are you? Do your parents know about him? If your parents don't, they NEED to, ESPECIALLY when you go to meet him.

I met my husband through an internet dating site - but I was older and had life experience on my side. I was VERY cautous and never revealed anything to him other than my first name and cell number so we could talk on the phone. NOTHING ELSE. It took a few months before he knew anything more than I what I did fora living and other bland details. I never regret how I met hubby, since it turned out to be a wonderful natch, but let me tell you..... the jerks I met while I was online could boggle the mind!

I'm 16 and my parents do know about him. I dont tell him like my phone number or anything he knows my name and stuff but nothing else oh other then that fact I live in Ontario and work at Pet Valu but ya. I've been talking to him since like November/December like everyday since then.

**elizabethann** · 04-28-2006, 03:33 PM

I think as long as your parents know about him, it's okay. However, I would have him go to your house and meet you in person as well as your parents before you go out (even if it's with friends). If he really likes you, he won't see a problem with this. Good luck. I hope it works out.

**racing_gurl07** · 04-28-2006, 03:55 PM

Alicia...you do have to be careful, but I did met the love of my love on the internet, and have been with him for 3 years. This might sound dumb...but i met him in person 5 days after i met him online, i was just glad that he wasnt a pervert or anything. so you can find good people online...but just be careful girl!!!

**jenluckenbach** · 04-28-2006, 06:19 PM

I would very much like to relate an experience that happened to me. And even though it is NOT the exact same type of relationship, it might help you to understand how things might go wrong.

I made a friend (what I thought was a very dear, and close same sex friend) over the internet. we were compatible and had many a wonderful conversation. I often thought that if we lived closer we could possibly be best "real-life" friends. Many of the same likes and dislikes and ideals.

But one incident (the actual reality that we might actually be able to meet in person) turned this person into someone I did NOT know. All of a sudden the friend that I thought I had made was gone because she was obviously not the person I believed her to be. And let me tell you........it hurt BAD. And I am certainly old enough to know better.

But I was taken in by someone who could talk the talk.

So, even though I truly believe that you may be able to find someone very special through the internet, please be OVERLY cautious. People can pretend to be anyone they want through their writing.

Good luck.

**dukedogsmom** · 04-30-2006, 11:04 AM

I, too, have met a special man on the internet. We talk every day on the computer and phone. I'm going to visit him in July. You need to be extra careful since you are so young. We don't have the arguments you speak of but I remember how it is being a teen. I agree that your parents should meet him the first time you do, also. Good luck and hope it works out.