I need a reason.

[Amber]

my mom wont let me get my lip pierced. Her only reasons are:

1.) no
2.) not while your living under my roof
3.) no, you'll have a hole in your lip. (duh mom)
4.) some people wont hire you for piercings.
5.) and she simply finds them ugly.
6.) your too young

I want one so bad. And I dont think I can wait till I move out or anything. It's not like its hurting me, or changing who I am. I just find them so gorgeuous! I love them, but she's not allowing me to have one.

For those whove had them, (and live with parents) how did you get your parent to allow you? what were their reasons?

[carole]

Amber how old are you? as a mother you probably won't like hearing what I am going to say , I would not let my daughter do such a thing either, at least until she was 16 and even then I may say NO, impatience is something that most young people have, and some older one's like myself lol, but really it won't do you any harm to wait, and then you will be sure if it is really what you want, why go through the pain and expense, if later you decide to take it out.

I guess my reasons would be much the same as your mother's , I actually donot mind belly buttons, noses if little stud only, not rings, and ears, but i really find lips distasteful, maybe your mother feels the same way.

[binka_nugget]

The shop I went to does most piercings once you're 16. I was 16 so, not much she could argue against. I paid for it and was fully aware of decreasing my chances of getting hired (and I proved her wrong ).

I'm old enough to get my tongue pierced but it was the one thing she was really against so I'm going to wait until I'm out of the house before I pierce that. But other than that, I'm pretty much allowed to get whatever pierced, provided that I pay for it and take proper care of it. It's almost common for me to come home with a new piercing without mentioning it LOL.

Maybe just keep at it and let her know that it's something you really want and didn't decide on it overnight. You can also start researching shops, risks, and aftercare to show that you are fully aware of the responsibilities you have as a piercee.

Good luck! They're fun piercings to have! I'm planning on getting my second lip piercing in a couple weeks.

[My Peanuts]

I can't help you with your mom because I never had a problem with my parents when it came to that stuff. Before you get your heart set on it you should look into it more if you haven't already. Does it leave a white scar? I'm sure you won't want to keep it forever. You are very pretty and I'd hate to see you scar your face . Sorry, I'm starting to get a little bit older and my mind wanders to the same questions my mom asks me about stuff!

[sirrahved]

This probably isn't going to be something that you win her over on, so I'd reccomend waiting until you don't need her permission, and then getting it. It would avoid lots of fights and exasperation.

[Logan]

I am one of those mothers that is going to tick you off, too, but you brought it up and I'll tell you my reasons. When you are an adult (over 18), and paying your own way, then you can do what you want to with your own body. Don't ask me to pay for piercings or anything else until that time. I provide basic neccessities like food, clothing, school financing, gifts for friends and family, and assorted other things, but things that go against what I think are wise and practical, I say "No" and I mean "No". My daughter (14) wants a second hole in her earlobe. I have said no to her on more than one occasion. If she wants it later, she can get it, when she is on her own. I said no because originally, she wanted it at the top of her ear, then decided, wisely, later that she didn't want that at all. She can wait. She has her pierced ears, wears earrings of her choice. If she still wants the other when she is on her own, she can pay for it and deal with it. I absolutely HATE the extra piercings in the nose, mouth, eyebrows, ears, etc. Every person I have ever met with a piercing in their tongue speaks with a lisp. It is distracting and takes away from the beauty and sincerity of the individual. That is my opinion. I'm old, I know, and many of you have those piercings and tattoos, etc. I just think that you don't need them to express who you are, and what you do is permanent.

Hang on. Don't push for that now.......if you still want it when you're out on your own, so be it.

Logan

[Samantha Puppy]

I'm NOT a mother (yet) but I agree with everyone who said to wait. This is such a petty thing, why would you want to cause avoidable friction with your mom over it? It won't kill you to wait and maybe you'll change your mind.

You are still under her roof. Like it or not, you live by her rules. She's not doing it to be a b!tch - she's doing it because she has your best interest at heart... and because you're a minor, her best interests trump your wants.

[Corinna]

I'm a mom of a daughter who is not pieced but tattooed. Married to a tat artist now. Had her 1st one at 17 she didn't live with me or she wouldn't have gotten it.
We moms remember giving birth to our beautiful skinned babies and its hard to see you kids defile your bodies(our ages the only tats were on bikers and sailors) so we are kind of fussy about you doing things to yourselves that is so perimnent . Daughter did try peicing belly and got a huge infection (caused part of her miscarriage of our grandson) wait untill your older.

[Amber]

Thankyou so much for your input & opinions.

I'm starting to see what she and you guys are saying. I'll be 15 in march, so maybe I can try to wait till i'm 16. I might change my mind on them too in a year or so--never know. But I really still want it done so bad! and if I ever get it done, I would pay for it with my babysitting money, so my mom wouldn't have to bother.

[moosmom]

Amber,

Those were the SAME reasons my parents gave me. Know what I did??? I waited till I was 45 and got 4 tattoos!!!!

[dukedogsmom]

Moosmom, that's funny. I got my first tatoo at 31. Amber, I'd wait until I was out on my own. It would be disrespectful of you to get it done after you were 16 if you were still living at home. Also, it does cut down on what kind of job you can have. If mine allowed it, I'd probably have my nose and eyebrow done. My mom would still freak and I'm 40 now. That part never goes away

[Tonya]

I've got a different viewpoint then most moms. (We'll see if I still have this viewpoint when Jaden's a teen.) Anyways, I would rather see my children get the wierd piercings and haircolors out of their system while they are in highschool. When they become adults, it is time to be responsible and have a clean appearance so that they can have good jobs.

My friends and I that had all the wierd piercings and hair colors are now perfectly normal looking adults. We got the urge out of our systems when we were young.

I've got a few friends who had strict parents, they weren't allowed to "deface" their bodies. So what happened? As soon as they moved out of their parents houses, they went extreme. I have friends that are 25-30 years old that should have real jobs by now yet they can't get a job because they're just now living their rebellious stage.

But I have to add, it isn't worth starting a holy war over. If your mom says no, just chill and wait. You've got plenty of life ahead of you.

[animal_rescue]

I'm not allowed to get it done until I'm 16(woohoo this summer*even though my birthday's in Oct. my mom is going to let it heal before school starts*), my mom's going to let me since I've been wanting since I was 10, that's five years I've wanted to get a lip, tongue, and belly button ring. I finally get them later this year. Just keep at it, don't bug her but let her know that you really want this, ask for it as a birthday present.

[Kristl]

I have my tongue pierced and I do not lisp. Neither does my boyfriend or anyone else that I know with tongue rings (unless they had a lisp to begin with). But that is beside the point. I myself would not want a very obvious piercing just for the simple fact that I dont like them. Other people, fine. I don't think they're trashy or anything, it's just not something I want for myself. I pierced my tongue when I was 18 and my mom didnt notice it for 2 weeks! People dont ever notice it unless I yawn or show it to them...employers included! I would agree to wait. It may be the "in" thing to do right now...think it over for at least a month before you really decide. You may find that you change your mind. And I hate to say it, but your mom probably isn't going to give in on this one. My mom would demand I take it out if I got one and I'm 23.

[CalliesMom]

For my 16th birthday, my father allowed me to get second holes in my ears. At 18, I had my third holes put in and had the top of my ear pierced also. I guess they figured at that point in life I 1) no longer lived with them and 2) though they were partially supporting me, I could make responsible decisions. At 19, I had my belly button pierced and at 20 had two tattoos done within a week of each other. I got the but I was an adult and could make those decisions.

I no longer wear earrings or have my belly button pierced and regret the tattoos because they aren't original and I put no thought into them. I got a dolphin and butterfly; though cute, don't represent me as a person. I would think seriously about anything that you do to your body because my belly button is now scarred and cannot remove tattoos unless I do it surgically.