I could just puke...

[Kristl]

OK, is this a good enough reason to get mad? Nick thinks I am being stupid...I don't.

Ok this stupid girl keeps text messaging my boyfriend, and going to his dads when he's there, and calling him and just basically hanging around him EVERY chance she gets. She even was telling people that they were "intimate". OK HELLO? He has a girlfriend you little, um, nevermind. I am at my wits end. I have cried and cried and cried over this. He seems to think that I am just overreacting and that because he has known her since they were kids that it's no big deal. To tell you the truth...it embarrasses me to death. Makes me feel really bad. So I don't know what to do to make him understand that he is literally destroying me. I have been thinking about leaviing him, because I don't need this crap. And yes, I could just start hanging out with other guys constantly...but I am not that immature. I think I am going to freak out. THEN he says "if you're so unhappy, go find someone who will make you happy." I think I will...

[luvofallhorses]

oh kristl,

I don't think you're over-reacting. It isn't right she calls him left and right and has you think something of it. Do tell him that it is destroying your relationship and if he doesn't take it well tell her off. She has no right to call him here and there maybe once a day would be enough and if he goes out with her make sure he has your permission. He's your boyfriend right? or husband? I don't know if my advice has helped any but hang in there(((hugs))).

Krista

[Kristl]

Oh, he is not allowed to be alone with her EVER or go anywhere with her...he knows that. But what's good for the goose is good for the gander, right?

[luvofallhorses]

well maybe the 3 of you could do something together? or you just cannot stand her?

[Kristl]

Can't stand her...

[Tubby & Peanut's Mom]

Originally posted by Kristl
THEN he says "if you're so unhappy, go find someone who will make you happy."

If that's his attitude, dump him! You say "I have been thinking about leaviing him, because I don't need this crap." And that is so true! It took me a long time and a lot of heartache before I realized there are many many guys out there that don't give you "crap" and if you don't need it, don't take it!

Good luck!

[Kristl]

Originally posted by Tubby & Peanut's Mom
If that's his attitude, dump him! You say "I have been thinking about leaviing him, because I don't need this crap." And that is so true! It took me a long time and a lot of heartache before I realized there are many many guys out there that don't give you "crap" and if you don't need it, don't take it!

Good luck!

Oh, SO true! Thanks all, sorry I just really needed to vent!

[kt_luvs_kitties]

I agree with above statement. If you were to stand outside of the situation, like I am, it would be so clear. You dont need that. Noone does. I know you probably really care about him, but its pretty obvious that he doesnt care about you as much... Or he would understand your worries, and tell her to back off. I know that sounds a bit harsh, but I just cant stand seeing a woman get tore down over a little boy that just doesnt get it. Pack your stuff and say GOODBYE. Once you do you will find someone who will be compassionate about your feelings, and make you truly happy. If a guy makes you cry, it just IS NOT worth it. Trust me.

*HUGS* I hope you find the strength to leave now, before it is 2 years down the road, and then you realize, you just wasted a whole lot of time that you can never get back

[luvofallhorses]

kt_luvs_kitties


advice is great do what you feel is right *hugs*

[Kfamr]

He doesn't sound like he deserves you.

I'd dump him without having to think about it. You don't deserve someone to be a jerk to you like that!

If he's incapable of understanding, or atleast be considerate about your feelings, then he isn't capable of being in a relationship with you.

[Tina]

Wow! I'm not really sure what to tell you. It sounds like she wants to be more then friends with him. I don't think it is right that she calls him when she feels like it.

It sounds like you might be better off without him. If he is telling you "if you're so unhappy, go find someone who will make you happy."

[NoahsMommy]

First, that is highly inappropriate behavior on her part...but I must say, unless she has no pride, she wouldn't act like that without a receptive audience.

Second, if he is unwilling to get this girl out of his life, he is not worth it!

I looked at your profile, you just turned 23. So I assume you've thought of this guy in a long term way. Be warned, actions are MUCH louder than words and this will be in your life for as long as he is.

Dr. Laura (radio psychologist, author, etc.) says that the way you know if a man deserves you is to ask yourself, "Is he WILLING to swim through shark infested waters to bring me a lemonade?" It sounds silly, but who would want a man that wasn't willing to do ANYTHING for you? Who has the time?

I'm sorry your boyfriend doesn't understand the situation. I hope it works out. You deserve better.

Take care.

[CalliesMom]

I would have to say that the girl flirting with him is a nice ego trip. You need to tell him exactly how you feel and if he doesn't like it, boot him to the curb.

[carole]

I think Nick is enjoying all the extra attention he is getting, if you love Nick I would not dump him straight away, it could be just small hiccup in your relationship, but you need to tell him straight, this kind of stuff won't wear with you, and HE needs to put a stop to it, no-one else, if he loves you and cares for you and realises his relationship with you is on the line, he will do the right thing.

If he is not prepared to , then yes sweetie I would give him his marching orders, plenty more fish in the sea and you are a very pretty young lady, who will have no problem finding another boyfriend.

I think it all depends how serious you two are about each other, as to whether it is worth working this out or not, whatever you decide , good luck dear.

As for the other girl, she is a waste of space, she knows he has a girlfriend and she should behave herself, but I guess she is after him, it sure sounds like it.

[Kristl]

Thanks everyone for all the advice. We've been together for 3 years...I would hate to see that time amount to notheng. Now that I have calmed down, I am a lot more rational. I don't want to throw this all away...I love him very much! He just told me that there are certain things about me that he can't stand and that if I will just make an attempt to try change some things, then he will be more respectful of my feelings. Stupid, yes. BUT I am not perfect. I have had my fair share of "ooops". We are going to eat at Pizza Hut for dinner and talk and I will give an update on the situation. Everyone is 100% right in their replies, and I will kick his rear if he doesn't fix it!!!