My friend Marci called me tonight in such sadness over her cousin's death this past Saturday.
I went to the funeral yesterday.
In case some people didn't read my other threads: Chad died on a motorcycle sat., was hit by a deer & wasn't wearing a helmet.
He was only 32 & has a 3 1/2 year old son that is left behind.
It was honestly one of the saddest funerals I have ever been to. It was a double funeral. Chad's mother died the day after him from a heart attack due to her son's death. I guess she just couldn't take the pain of her son dying like he did.
The hardest parts for me were when; Levi (Chad's son) was brought in by his mother & he cried out: "no mommy, I don't want to be here, I don't want to see daddy like this!"....
Also, when Marci got up to say her speech....you could just hear the PAIN in her voice, it was so devastating!!!
That was all at the wake.
The funeral was very sad too but, at the end Marci got on a Harley with another man & drove off from the funeral. She was wearing a Harley jacket that Chad had given her that, she hadn't had the chance to wear yet. It was almost to say: "Here you go Chad, this one's for you."
He LOVED his family, friends, & his Harley I was told!
Sorry so lengthy, I just want you to know the whole story. So, my question is: What do you say to COMFORT the person? Is there anything YOU CAN SAY???
I told her that I was here to listen & whatever she needed I was here for her! I JUST DON"T KNOW what to do!
Any ideas? Or is listening the best thing you can do???
Tina