I'm engaged, as a lot of you know. We're not planning to get married for a few years yet, but we're trying to get most of the planning out of the way now, and even purchase some of the things we need WAY in advance. Here's the only hitch I've run into so far:

My mom's twin brother is EXTREMELY religious. He constantly tries to evangelize myself, and any of my friends unfortunate enough to meet him. I will not go visit him in Oregon anymore becuase he tries to make me feel horrible when I will not participate in the family's prayer time or attend church with them.

As you know, I am pagan. My fiancee isn't exactly pagan, but he is polytheistic and he agreed to a pagan ceremony as long as it wasn't deity-oriented, so as not to make any relatives uncomfortable. I found a BEAUTIFUL handfasting ceremony here:

http://www.nonreligiousweddings.com/hands.html

Still, I'm very worried that my uncle is going to be offended that I'm not having a "Traditional" wedding, or a "Christian" wedding. I'm worried that he may say something inappropriate, or try to inject Christianity into the ceremony, because that's just what he does.

If I had my way he wouldn't be invited, but I have a pretty small family and leaving someone out could cause a big rift. Plus, I love and adore my aunt, and I would love for her to be there . She is very religious too, but I have more faith in her ability to restrain herself. I wish I felt that I could talk to her about my concerns, but I think she would laugh them off. She's wonderful, but she does tend to be rather self-centered and not the greatest at helping out people in distress.

What should I do? Should I include an extra note in the invitation... "This is a pagan wedding and is to be respected as such, so please keep your nose out of my religion"?! I dunno. I'm glad I have a long time to figure this out.

Oh and BTW: this is the dress I'm going to wear, in either burgundy or forest green. ^_^