Court Fight waged over brain damaged moms tripplets

[DJFyrewolf36]

http://www.cnn.com/2010/CRIME/04/22/...its/index.html

Something about this whole thing seems fishy to me. Again I'm sure we aren't getting the whole story. I feel very sorry for the poor children.

[caseysmom]

I just saw this. Both sides seem to be fighting for her money and its disgusting. The Dad is suing for child support the mom looks decked out in expensive close from the million dollar law suit...the whole thing has an icky feel to it.

[pomtzu]

I didn't see anything sinister in this at all, but maybe I'm missing something. All I saw was a man and his wife caring for their disabled daughter, and wanting the grandchildren to be able to be part of her life. Granted, at this point, considering their age, it could probably be very traumatic for them, but I don't see where a webcam could hurt. At least they can see her, and when they are older and can somewhat understand her condition, that it won't be a shock to them.
And as far as the father of the children wanting child support - I'm out on that verdict. I guess I would have to know what he does for a living before I would say he should get anything.

[Twisterdog]

I actually believe that the younger the children are when they are exposed to their mother's condition, the easier it is going to be for them. Young kids take everything is stride, provided it is handled well by the adults. If they meet her now, she will just be mom to them as they grow up. They longer everyone waits the harder it is going to be on them.

As for child support ... I don't know. If the dad is making a good living, and it is going to take all of the settlement money to care for the mom, then I think he should let it alone. However, if her parents are milking any of that money for themselves, and he is an average working-class guy with three kids to care for, I can certainly see where is would be wanting that money for his kids, not his wife's parents. Too little info to make an educated call.

[cassiesmom]

I feel sorry for the children too. I think they should be allowed to visit their mother even if their father remarries. Between the husband and the grandparents I don't think there's an easy resolution to where the money goes. The mother needs care for her brain injury but there will be ongoing expenses for the children too.

[lvpets2002]

Yes it is Sad anyway you look at it..

I feel sorry for the children too. I think they should be allowed to visit their mother even if their father remarries. Between the husband and the grandparents I don't think there's an easy resolution to where the money goes. The mother needs care for her brain injury but there will be ongoing expenses for the children too.

[Asiel]

The whole thing is very sad but I see no reason why the maternal grandparents and the mother can't have contact with the triplets. They make it sound like the mother abused her kids when in fact she almost gave her life giving birth to them. Nobody will ever be able to say for sure to what extent the mother feels or understands. There is no reason to keep her kids away from her, kids learn to adapt at a very young age and as they get older they will resent being kept away from her.
Something smells fishy about the whole scenario, for one thing the father wanting money to help raise his kids....what would he be doing if his wife hadn't gotten that money and went home as a whole person with the triplets...what does he do for a living is my question.

[caseysmom]

Had his wife lived I guess he wouldn't need day care but to me if he wants her money but the kids can't see Mom its just wrong.

[Asiel]

Had his wife lived I guess he wouldn't need day care but to me if he wants her money but the kids can't see Mom its just wrong.

Totally agree with you on that one.

[Marigold2]

Oh my gosh are you kidding me? The mom is a veggie salad. The kids do not need to see or be exposed to a veggie. She is incapable of giving them any love, attention, support.................
Yes I feel sorry for her, but it's over, the cards have been dealt. Now the husbend and the kids need to forge ahead and make a normal life for themselves and grandma and grandpa should put daughter in a nursing home and get on with their lives.
If that was me I would not want my children to dwell on what has happened to me, I would want them to go ahead and enjoy their lives to the fullest. Life is for the living and is to be enjoyed.
I have told all of my kids, if I stroke out enjoy life, every precious second and don't fret about me. My time has passed, it's ok to be happy and do your thing.

[Taz_Zoee]

Personally, I think the father wanted to move on (as in with another relationship), didn't want to deal with three babies and a "sick" wife.
I think if he truly loved her like he stated he did, she would be living in the same house with him and the children.

And as someone else stated, if those children had grown up around her there wouldn't be a problem. They would just know that is mom.....end of story. Now that it has been almost 4 years he is using the excuse of "the kids won't be able to handle it". They would have handled it just fine if they had been with their mother from the beginning. And who's to say that Abbie would not make HUGE improvements just by having her children around her? No one knows for sure how much she can understand and comprehend. She may feel that there is nothing left to fight for since she doesn't have her husband or children anymore.

And I am as shocked and saddened as everyone else on the "not-so-nice" post. I know this is in the Dog House but it doesn't REQUIRE mean comments.

[Marigold2]

I posted my thoughts on this women in an honest way. If it was me I would want my children to move on and not waste their life on a veggie salad being me. I posted that because I love my children and want them to enjoy their life to the fullest. I put my childrens happeness before my own,
From what I understood of the article this women cannot speak, move or comprehned any thing around her, her mind is gone and from what the Dr's are telling the husband think it will remain so. Yes she blinks but perhaps it is just that. A blink.
How are her children be a part of her life? She cannot speak to them, hug them, feed them or even love them. I think exposing these kids to her is horrid, yes she gave birth to them and lost her life but those are the cards she was dealt. What happiness can come from the children sitting by her bedside? Perhaps when they are 10 or older they can meet her and get an understanding but for now I think it would give them nightmares.
I don't think it's very cool at all to expose little ones to that.
As for the husbend moving on, good for him. He has kids to support and a life to lead. No good would come of him sitting by her bedside, the kids come first.

[Karen]

The children can meet her, and understand her situation. They can talk to her, just as one might speak to a coma patient. We do not know how much she sees or understands, but a touch is still a touch. A voice is still a voice. And she is their mother, and as children, they are bound, sooner or later, to wonder about her.

And, next time, you can be honest with sounding so cruel. Remember, this is Pet Talk.

[caseysmom]

I guess some folks don't really mean "till death do us part" maybe they should say "until its not convenient anymore"

[Marigold2]

My mom was in a coma after her car accident and I sat at her bedside, it was a nightmare. Had she lived and stayed in the coma I would have stopped going to see her.
I had three kids who needed a mom.
My mom and I talked about this very thing six months before her accident because Steve's mom had a stroke and my mom said she did not want to live like that and be a burden. Being in a coma is no life. I feel the same.
I would not put my kids through that. Sometimes love means letting go and letting others live their lives without you, for it is best for them.
None of us know how much time we have on this earth, life is not fair and there is no explaintion as to why a two year old dies of cancer and the 103 year old man in the nursing home still has a beating heart and no visitors.
But when the brain is dead and the heart is not I believe the soul has left and it is time for the living to move on and let the living dead pass on as well.
If I die or wind up in a coma I expect Steve to move on. I would be a tough act to follow but I would want him to have someone to be with and never sit by my bedside and waste his life.