I'm going to be an Aunt!!!! Need advice too...

[king2005]

So ya, I'm gonna be a first time aunt! YAY!

So here is the issue... My sister has said from day 1.. abortion ISN'T an option... Her boyfriend of 4yrs is pro. He is livid & is telling her to abort. She told him no, you know I'm against it, & he said you know I'm for it... Sorry bub it doesn't work that way.

Anyways, shes happy & looking forward to it. But shes more happy knowing I'm full support of it... Which I'm not, I've always been against her b/f but I've TRIED soo hard to just accept him & deal, cause I love my sister... So I did the OMG YAY jumping for joy & I'm getting her a whole whack of clothing for it (no idea on the sex as its too early, so its an it for now lol)... I know things will most likely fall apart with them, 7 she will become a single mother... Ignoring that, as I'm "trying" (hard) to say semi positive for them...

So what should I expect from the father? Anyone with statistics with anti baby fathers, behaviours we need to watch out for with him? Advice? Anything? I honestly don't know what to do, I'm at a total loss as I know zip about this stuff

I want to be the best aunt I can be.

Oh, shes due in Sept 2010.. shes getting an ultrasound on monday to check the babies health.

[Taz_Zoee]

I know my sister-in-law was not pleased with her sister getting pregnant at first. But by the time she was due she decided she just needed to be there for her sister and support her in any way she could.
I think that's what you need to do for your sister. Sure the father may eventually become not much of a father. But at least she will always have you, her sister. Also, since the father is not very supportive of this pregnancy she definitely needs SOMEONE on her side.

As far as what to watch for in the "father", I have no experience with that. So I can't help you there. I just know you should be there for your sister. She may need you a lot through this pregnancy. And trust me, once that baby is born you are going to love him/her so much you can't stand it!

That's my two cents anyway. And congrats AUNTIE!!

[king2005]

I know my sister-in-law was not pleased with her sister getting pregnant at first. But by the time she was due she decided she just needed to be there for her sister and support her in any way she could.
I think that's what you need to do for your sister. Sure the father may eventually become not much of a father. But at least she will always have you, her sister. Also, since the father is not very supportive of this pregnancy she definitely needs SOMEONE on her side.

As far as what to watch for in the "father", I have no experience with that. So I can't help you there. I just know you should be there for your sister. She may need you a lot through this pregnancy. And trust me, once that baby is born you are going to love him/her so much you can't stand it!

That's my two cents anyway. And congrats AUNTIE!!

Thank you

My sister has been there for me when doo doo hit the fan, so it's the right thing for me to do It's just the father I'm not happy with, & I know I'll be a very loving Aunt. Another issue I KNOW I'll have is the protection a mother bear has for her cubs. I'm a vicious protector with anyone I consider mine (including friends). I know I have this "issue" as it may be, so I always try to plan ahead of bad things that might happen so I can set my head straight so I don't bite.

I've already put out an ad for new mother items on Freecycle, so I can get a head start on collecting things for her.. This way it will reduce her stress asap, as she is worried about money now cause of the baby. In reality she'll be just fine, buying things new will break her bank, so thats why I'm getting this free stuff, but when the baby is here, it WILL easily fit in her budget... Less things to buy = less stress... I know just telling her that she felt more at ease, i could hear it in her voice over the phone (she lives 500km from me, but I visit her 1-2 times a yr as I have a car).

Her sister-in law is CRAZY HAPPY for her, so she has 2 people supporting her & her close friends (all 3) are also in full support... She KNOWS his mother will freak out & scream at her, so shes scared to death to tell her.. Shes also scared to tell mom & dad. I'm the only family member that knows.

She has no worries with our folks. I KNOW dad will be supportive, as he was when there was a chance I was. He's a great father & knows which battles to fight & which ones to leave alone & just deal with. She'll be even more fine with mom. Mom will scream & will tell the whole world shes going to be a grandma. Then she'll get crazy & will buy all kinds of frilly things...

Also the fact my sister was able to get knocked up is great, as she had cervical cancer when she was 18 & had it removed. But there is always a chance that getting pregnant will be hard or impossible... My chances are also lower then normal, so the fact that she was ABLE to get pregnant is great news for our family.

With luck the baby will get to know 3 of it's great grandparents. 1 is dying, but he's doing well for someone as ill as he is. The crazy old man is STILL working!! SO hopefully he'll get to see a grand baby as everyone in our family needs to know him as a baby. He's too awesome & too darn good with babies


sorry rambling....

[wombat2u2004]

That's great news mate.
Sounds like you got everything already planned out for the baby....hee hee.
Wish your sister well, and don't worry about El Jerko, he'll either stay and deal with it, or do a runner. Time will tell.

[king2005]

Thanks Wom

[Karen]

It's a stressful time, but can also be a happy time. Hey, and summertime is yard sale time, so you'll have plenty of opportunity to stick up on baby stuff before she's due!