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    Hey--Question!! Confused here :(

    Hey, it's me, Genny. How are all of you doing? You guys might not remember me-I think it has been over a year but I use to visit this site all the time. My life has been a little hectic the past year or so--and we moved and just recently got our computer back-so this is really the first chance I've gotten to get online. But anyway here I am now (and I hope I'll have the time to visit this site more often now, I it here )

    Anyway here is what I wanted to talk about. Over a year ago I sent in a thread asking advice about this guy that I liked a lot--but the problem was that he was 17 and I was 20. We were like really great friends for a long time and I think we both kinda liked each other 'more than friends' but it's like we were too afraid to say anything.
    We never went out but for a year we talked every day- either he would call me or I would go to the store he worked at to see him. I was really falling for him and he was awesome to me-He would come to my house and he made good friends w/ my older brother (my brother is 28 and he's overly protective of me ) so normally he doesn't like many guys for me, but he liked this guy (his name is Alec) so anyway we weren't going out but we were just like such goodfriends. He evern told my brother one day before Halloween '08 that he gets so nervous and tongue tied around me-but he wanted to ask me out soon) When my brother told me that I was so excited! Alec started working at a Haunted Maze and invited my brother & I to come to it one night, so the night before Halloween we decide to go. I tried calling Alec to let him know we were on our way, but he wouldn't answer his cell. I figured he was working in the maze somewhere and couldn't hear his phone. So we went ahead. When we got there we asked this other guy we saw that also worked at the maze if Alec was working tonight and he told us that he hadn't seen him in a couple days that he started dating some girl recently--and right when I heard that it broke my heart. It just crushed me and made me feel terrible. So I didn't call him or anything because if he was out with some other girl I didn't want to call, ya know? So a month later I was at Walmart w/ my friend and I see Alec w/ this other girl holding her hand. That really hurt my feelings and I just wanted to cry. I think he saw me but he didn't say anything. (That was back in November)
    I haven't talked to Alec since then UNTIL.........
    March 3, a couple days ago he calls mycell phone, but I was in the shower and didn't answer it, then March 4 he calls me again so I answer it to see what he wants--he asked me if he could ride by, he said his buddy was w/ him and he wanted to know if he could ride by and say hi. I didn't want to be rude so I told him I guess he could if he wanted to. So he sayd alright we'll be there in 10 minutes-----well he comes and we talk for a while and then he asked me if my brother and I would want to go mud-riding w/ him and a few of his guy friends this weekend. We said sure alright--so he said hed call us and let us know when they were going.
    After he left I just wondered......why in the world did he call me after not calling for 5 months???!!!??? He broke my heart whether he realized it or not. So the weekend came and went and Sunday he text messaged me to let me know they didn't go this weekend (duh!) that they might go tomorrow, but he'd call and let me know. Well the next day he called me but I didn't answer it cause my phone was on vibrate and I didn't hear it. So not it's 3 days after that happened. So I don't know what to do or think? I mean I was so hurt at him and I had finally gotten over him and then he calls me again...out of the blue...just like that....what am I supposed to think or say? I mean I liked him so much before, ofcourse I still like him, but I wonder what he's thinking. Why did he call me after 5 months and why didn't he call me before that, why did he wait so long?? I mean he really hurt me really bad by not calling me....I mean it crushed me...and we had never went out so it's not like he cheated on me, but for some reason it still hurt.
    So not he's 18 and this has happened and I don't know what to do or think about it. I'm still 20...but what do I do? I mean it's already been 3 days since he last called me, is he gonna go a couple more months until he calls again? know what I mean...I don't know what to expect from him now. I know I should probably just forget him cause he's probably gonna end up hurting me again like he did before, but what do you think? why do you guys think he called me after 5 whole months of nothing at all!!!!???!!!!!
    Well if any of you have read this, thankyou, and thankyou for replying back to me if you can.

    Genny
    *Some people come into your life and quickly go, but some leave footprints on your heart and you are never the same*
    *We only fall so we can learn to pick ourselves back up*
    *Life is not measured by the amount of breaths we take but by those that take our breath away*
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    Why did he call me after 5 months and why didn't he call me before that, why did he wait so long?? I mean he really hurt me really bad by not calling me....
    Call him. Ask him what his deal is. Ask him why he didn't call for 5 months. Tell him it hurt you. I'd also let him know that you don't want to be friend only when it's convenient for him.

    By the way, it's good to see you posting again.
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    I agree with what Kari said. If you guys were such good friends (and it sounds like you were) you should be able to talk to him about this.
    I've had the same thing happen to me. I had a good friend and when he got into a relationship he would stop talking to me, usually because the girlfriend didn't want him talking to me. Jealous?? Anyway, he got married 5 years ago and I haven't heard from him since.
    Try not to get hung up on him. He's obviously doing his own thing and you should too. If you two are meant to be together it will happen. Maybe further down the road when he matures a bit more.

    And welcome back!!
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    He was most likely completely wrapped up in his new girlfriend. He is very young and most likely does not have much experience in friendships/relationships.

    You could call him and tell him that he hurt you and then move on. It will help you move on if you tell him how you feel/felt.

    Good luck!

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    Definitely just talk to him!
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    He's 18 and male. Who knows his reason for doing anything? Honestly sounds like he was putting you on a list of possibilities and then found someone more convenient at the moment. I'd move on, but then again I'm 36 now and have no more patience for immature mind games. Been there done that, LOL. Too many good men in this world to get worked up over just one.

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