Anyone spare a hug?

[catnapper]

I'm sitting here bawling thanks to a phone call by my brother. I don't know how we can go through the same childhood and come out so completely different. He just put me on the biggest guilt trip in the world and kept telling me he wasn't trying to make me upset... and I kept asking him if he wasn't trying them why was he doing such a good job?

It doesn't help that I feel awful - sore throat, dizziness, headache, congestion. So here I am bawling and making more snot than I already had

Why do I let him get to me so much? He called acting like an all-concerned brother who only wants to help me, yet somehow it felt like a "lets pick on Kim" party. I was chastised for not reaching out and telling him about my surgery... in all honestly it never occured to me to do so -- mom tells me all about him and I figured she tells him all about me. If he was that concerned about my operation he could have called to see how I was. I was chastised for not asking him about his kids.... yet he still hasn't come up to meet Cameron. He refused to see how things he does hurts (like the time he didn't come to my daughter's 13th birthday party because he prefered to stay home and watch the Eagle's playoff game -- they lost BTW) Its gotten to the point where I try to avoid communicating with him because he leaves me feeling like a worthless lump of mush.

I need a hug really bad and nobody is home to give me one

[Karen]

Sending you a big hug! And any of the Pet Talkers who have met me can vouch that when you've been hugged by a Peterson/Watts clan member - you know it!

I've got a couple of brothers, you could borrow one of them, or hey - adopt one of the Pet Talk guys as a substitute brother!

[Alysser]

I know the feeling, brothers can be a pain. (((hugs))) I hope things get better between you to. Pet the kitties and Nicki, it'll make you feel alot better.

[Jadapit]

I'm sorry your brother brings you down! I hope you feel better soon. I have lots of hugs to spare. (((HUGS)))

[Ginger's Mom]

Here are some more {{{Hugs}}}. I don't have any brothers, but family members sure can push buttons no one else can, can't they?

[caseysmom]

I am sending you a great big hug okay. I was blessed with a very sweet brother thank goodness. Your brother sounds like my sister though so I can relate.

[Pembroke_Corgi]

Awww I'm sorry. ((((hugs))))

I know how you feel...I often feel that way after talking to my dad. It's tough when you care about someone but they have a way of making you feel horrible.

[MajesticCollies]

Here's a big ole hug from me. I have a very close knit family so I can't say I know what your going through. I hope everything mends itself.

[jenluckenbach]

{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}

And Nikki and Allen should both be pretty good to hug if no one else is home.

[Zippy]

((((Big Hugs))))
Zippy and Pumpkin send head bumps.

[Catty1]

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You can choose your friends...your relatives are wished on you!

[Vette]

[Vette]

Awww,, hang in there
hope to'mollies brings you a better day.

hang in there

[Twisterdog]

Its gotten to the point where I try to avoid communicating with him because he leaves me feeling like a worthless lump of mush.

This is the point I reached a few years ago with my siblings. It just wasn't worth it. I tried and tried, and to no good end except hurt and hard feelings for me. We can't choose our families, and though it hurts, sometimes we have to choose not to let people we simply happen to be related to through an accident of biology to hurt us anymore.

[I_luv_rusty]

(((Hugs)))) Sorry you brother has to bring you down Hope you feel better soon