I should have learned the first time... *RANT*

[finn's mom]

Originally posted by ILoveMyAbbyGirl
I'm afraid of what she would DO if I said no. She hasn't hit me before, but sometimes she gets so angry, she looks like she would. I just don't want to risk that chance.

Where's the Kleenex when you need em??

Ok, I guess this is why I'm so confused. If you are that afraid, why are ever alone with her? I mean, unless you feel like you're being silly or exaggerating things. If you really are afraid that she might do something to you if you say no, I don't understand why you go anywhere with her. i'm sorry if I'm being pushy, I won't push any more after this.

[NoahsMommy]

Do you live with both your parents??

Could you go to your dad with this??

[ILoveMyAbbyGirl]

Today, it was on the way home from work. I had no choice to be with her. I avoid her at all costs, but sometimes she needs to take me places.

Thanks for the support everyone.

[ILoveMyAbbyGirl]

Originally posted by NoahsMommy
Do you live with both your parents??

Could you go to your dad with this??

Yes and yes. My dad will definately hear this one. He gets the same thing sometimes, she asks him to buy her soda and cigarettes too. He says no most of the time. I just have to find the same strength he has.

[finn's mom]

Originally posted by ILoveMyAbbyGirl
Today, it was on the way home from work. I had no choice to be with her. I avoid her at all costs, but sometimes she needs to take me places.

Thanks for the support everyone.

Maybe just ask your dad to buy a pack of cigarettes for her before you go anywhere with her, so, if it comes up, you can just give them to her, and, say, I knew you'd ask, so, here. And, if you have the bus available, take it. I'd rather walk 1000 miles than be stuck in a car with someone I didn't feel safe around, but, hopefully, it's not as bad as that. I hope everything works out, and, that you keep yourself safe.

[NoahsMommy]

Originally posted by ILoveMyAbbyGirl
Yes and yes. My dad will definately hear this one. He gets the same thing sometimes, she asks him to buy her soda and cigarettes too. He says no most of the time. I just have to find the same strength he has.

Honey, here's the thing. Its OK for her to ask your dad to get her cigarettes...whatever. But to ask her DAUGHTER for money for cigarettes is HIGHLY UNAPPROPRIATE. That's the deal. This is not right.... I think that's why Finn's Mom is so mad...as am I...for you.

Talk to your dad. He needs to talk to her for her. Demand she knock this off.

[ILoveMyAbbyGirl]

That's another thing... the guilt she puts us through.


I don't have to be here right now. I could call my dad this second and tell him that I want him to come and get me. But I feel this overwhelming guilt that I have to be here... but my dad tells me that I don't ever have to be at one or the other if I don't want to. I just feel so guilty and like a horrible person if I tell my mother I don't want to stay with her.

If my dad did say something to her about it, she wouldn't listen. She never has.

[ILoveMyAbbyGirl]

Originally posted by NoahsMommy
Honey, here's the thing. Its OK for her to ask your dad to get her cigarettes...whatever. But to ask her DAUGHTER for money for cigarettes is HIGHLY UNAPPROPRIATE.

Lol... just to point out a little humor in this whole thing...

shouldn't I be asking her for money for cigs? Lol... it's what all the kids are doing... Riiight. Sorry, couldn't resist.

[ILoveMyAbbyGirl]

I'm just going to have to tell her I'm not going to fund her killing herself. She'd love it.

[finn's mom]

Originally posted by ILoveMyAbbyGirl
I just feel so guilty and like a horrible person if I tell my mother I don't want to stay with her.

Well, I hope you can get over that, because she does not deserve you right now. She needs to learn a lesson. You know, parents resort to tough love all the time, maybe it's your turn to turn the tables around. Good luck.

[flamepony12]

Oh my gosh Meg, I'm sorry I didn't see this before... You know I'm always here for you, though... Through the good times and the bad. I am so sorry you've had to go throught this for so long... I really wish there was something more I could do. You know we love you Meg, so we're here whenever you need us. You can always PM me, and if you want, I can PM you my cell too. ((((((HUGS))))))

[GoldenRetrLuver]

I'm sorry you have to go through all of this, Meg. You know I'm always here for you. I'd listen to everyone else's advice.. if you can get out of the house and go live with your dad, like I told you, then by all means, go. Do not feel guilty over anything. There's no reason for you to feel that way. Your health and well-being is the most important thing.

{{hugs}}

[ILoveMyAbbyGirl]

Thanks everyone... *hugs*

[king2005]

I know what its like to have a not so nice mother. I felt bad leaving her, but it was best for me. I was under terrible stresses when I was living with her.

After I moved out I stopped seeing/talking/etc with her. Its been about 1.5 years now & I feel great!

Sometimes u have to start thinking whats best for u & the heck what others think/feel.

My b/f took me in so I have a place to live. I also have a nice job. I'm finally happy, less stressed & much healthier.

The easiest way to leave, is when ur mother isn't home. Pack all ur things up & get ur dad to pick u & ur things up ASAP & don't look back (as in feeling guilty).

If u want advoid her for a while. Let things cool down with ur move. & when ur ready, so see her. BUT only if u want to.

I choose not to & I highly doutb I'll ever see her again. & I do not care. My health is more important then anything.

[ILoveMyAbbyGirl]

Thanks everyone.