I should have learned the first time... *RANT*

[ILoveMyAbbyGirl]

What do you think THIS rant is going to be about?

If you know anything about me, you'd know its my mom.




She spent the rest of my money on cigarettes for herself. I had ten dollars for the week and she spent 5 on her cigarettes. I had spent five on my dinner because I worked all night.

She constantly tells me that she won't buy me anything because I have my own money. The fact is, if I would have said no to her tonight, she would have f***ing slapped me. I'm not even kidding. Here was our convo.

Mom: You're going to have to give me some money so I can buy cigarettes.

Me: WHY?!? What happened to the ten bucks YOU had?

Mom: Jake and I got Taco Bell for supper.

Me: Mom, all I have is 5 bucks after this. Don't buy any freaking cigarettes if you don't have money.

Then she gave me the most evil, deadly looking glare I have ever seen. If she didn't have both hands on the steering wheel and was driving she would have slapped me.

Mom: KNOCK IT OFF. We BOTH get paid on Friday, chill the f*** out.

I was crying in the car, she just couldn't see me. I can't understand why she finds the need to take MY money all the time... AND smoke all the time.

Sorry for the pointless rant... I just feel like all I'm here for is to give my mom money for tobacco and piss her off.. nothing else.

[finn's mom]

It's not a pointless rant. That sucks. Maybe you should just stop carrying your money with you. Put it in savings, and, don't tell your mom. Does your dad know she's spending all of your money? I would just simply not carry it anymore.

[ILoveMyAbbyGirl]

The thing is, she knows I have money most of the time, it rarely happens that I never have a dollar to my name. If I didn't have any with me, she would take me home to get it, its just that urgent to her.

[Karen]

I agree - put your money in a bank account, just keep a couple bucks in your sneaker or somewhere she won't know about. Tell your mom that you will not give her cigarette money ever again. If she gets mad, tell her you care about her, and that smoking is so bad for her, and all those around her, that you feel it's your moral obligation not to support that habit. Tell her she should be proud that she has raised a daughter with strong morals and the fortitude to not back down. Then stick your fingers in your ears while she hollers. (If you lived near me I'd offer you my couch to sleep on as refuge 'til she calms back down, be that ten minutes or ten years.)

[finn's mom]

What does your dad say about this? There's no way she can make you get money that you don't have. Just simply don't keep it anywhere that she can get it. Crap, put it in an envelope and mail it to a friend or something, if that's what you have to do. Partly joking on that one. Are you really afraid she's going to physically harm you? Is there any way that you could make sure you're never alone with her? If it's gotten to the point where you're afraid she's going to hit you in the face for not giving her money for cigarettes, than, it's gotten to the point where you need to take it to another level.

[ILoveMyAbbyGirl]

I came so close to standing my ground and saying no... I was so close... but the way she looked at me...

[finn's mom]

Originally posted by ILoveMyAbbyGirl
I came so close to standing my ground and saying no... I was so close... but the way she looked at me...

Is it too personal to ask the questions I've asked? You can tell me if it is, I won't ask again, or probe any further. But, this is p***ing me off for some reason, and, I want to see if we can help you figure out something.

[NoahsMommy]

((((hugs))))

It doesn't sound like your mom is open to discussing this, so I'd just lay low until you can get the heck out of there.

I wish I could help you....it has to be a horrible feeling and you truly don't deserve this.

Hugs sweetie,
Kelly

[ILoveMyAbbyGirl]

Originally posted by finn's mom
What does your dad say about this? There's no way she can make you get money that you don't have. Just simply don't keep it anywhere that she can get it. Crap, put it in an envelope and mail it to a friend or something, if that's what you have to do. Partly joking on that one. Are you really afraid she's going to physically harm you? Is there any way that you could make sure you're never alone with her? If it's gotten to the point where you're afraid she's going to hit you in the face for not giving her money for cigarettes, than, it's gotten to the point where you need to take it to another level.

(Sorry, I missed this post!)

I don't know if she would hurt me... she certainly could if she wanted. I remember when I was 6 or so, she dragged my sister up the stairs by her hair... I was so scared, I ran to my sister and she held me and we both cried.

Like I said, she knows I usually have a couple dollars, and thats all she needs. If it's at home, we'll run home and get it. My dad HATES it when she does this to me, same as I do. And its not like my mom would hit me for no reason, so being alone with her isn't really a problem.

All I know is that you guys have both given me the strength to stand up to her next time.. my dad says the same thing, to just stand my ground.


Don't be afraid to ask questions either.

[Queen of Poop]

I completely agree with Karen, excellent comments. Prayers for you that you have the strength to stand up to her. Tell her you can no longer watch her kill herself with cigarettes. I am sad for you. Please take care.

[finn's mom]

Ok, that's cool. I was just going by what you said when you said she would have slapped you, that's what I meant by hit. I hope you can stand up to her. You have a lot more strength than you're giving yourself credit for. A lot more than your mother does, if she's going to be begging for money for a weak habit like smoking. That's disgusting. I had to finally tell my brother that I wouldn't drive him or give him money for cigarettes. It has to come to that with some people.

[ILoveMyAbbyGirl]

I'm crying just thinking about it... all the nice comments and such, thank you guys, keep them coming.

I keep saying that I'm going to say no, but I'm AFRAID to say no. That's why I didn't this time. I'm AFRAID.

[finn's mom]

Originally posted by ILoveMyAbbyGirl
I'm AFRAID.

Ok, this is what has me worried. What are you afraid of exactly? You can tell me it's none of my business, or pm me if you want.

[ILoveMyAbbyGirl]

I'm afraid of what she would DO if I said no. She hasn't hit me before, but sometimes she gets so angry, she looks like she would. I just don't want to risk that chance.

Where's the Kleenex when you need em??

[NoahsMommy]

Originally posted by ILoveMyAbbyGirl
I keep saying that I'm going to say no, but I'm AFRAID to say no. That's why I didn't this time. I'm AFRAID.

Honey, you know your mom better than we do. If you are afraid, just try and avoid her.

Reading about her...and what she thinks is OK to do to her daugher...shows what type of person she is. If you tried to say no and she treated you so harshly, I don't know if standing up is the best idea.

Gosh, I wish I could come kidnap you!!