Advice Re: family and my wedding.

[Barbara]

What colour is your hair? Just thinking about the forest green and burgundy

[CathyBogart]

This is an OLD picture, and my hair is much longer now, but it's a good picture to show the color.

[Barbara]

Oh great - I thought it would best be reddish with these colours. Maybe the forest green is even better?

I wish there had been dresses like that when I married first time in 1975 Anyway I had a flowerpower hippie dress

[ramanth]

That dress is GORGEOUS!!!

My first thought was, it is YOUR wedding, not his. He had his and he should butt out.

I mean, would he really speak out or be obnoxious during the ceremony? I can't imagine any family or friends letting that happen before either telling him to shut up or leave.

I mean, if he's just going to be grumbling and 'bible' thumping his religion at the reception.... that much I could sort of handle. You could avoid him and I'm sure others would too as religion is a touchy subject.

Or does he have blinders on to how rude that can be in public?


Andy hasn't proposed, though I'm sure one day he will and our religious beliefs are different. I'm pagan, he's Lutheran.

I'd like to have a spiritual wedding, without mention of any specific deity.

Kind of a ... Let the Powers that Be bless this union type of thing.

Haven't mentioned it to Andy, but I hope he'd be for it.

[My Peanuts]

This is YOUR wedding. You don't need to explain anything to anyone, but your future husband or make any apologies! That is ridiculous. Your uncle should be mature enough to understand that everyone isn't going to do things his way, especially something like this.

BTW, that is an awesome dress. Good for you that you are truly making this your day and for thinking outside the box.

[Cincy'sMom]

I love the dress and think it would be beautiful in either color. Burgandy and forest green are two of my favorites

[lizbud]

No advice about any wedding guests, but just wanted to say
I thought the dress gorgeous. I also think either of the darker
colors would look good with your complexion & hair color.

Good luck to you in this.

[2kitties]

Beautiful dress, Wolfchan.
If it were me, I'd have my mother handle her brother. She can speak more frankly with him than you. No need for letters or formal stuff- just have your mom make sure he keeps his Bible thumpin' on his own dime.

[IttyBittyKitty]

Scott's best friend's wife wore a similar dress to that, only it was in that fabric which is shimmery and appears to be a dfifferent colour from different angles. She also had an exsquisite blue veil. Interestingly enough, their's was a Catholic ceremony so the dress was an unusual choice as it was not white

Meanwhile, Karen was totally right. Whatever way you do it, you MUST stand up to this individual and be firm when you say that, for one day, his religous overtures will not be welcome. This day will belong to you and Brian, and the two of you have been gracious enough to let him and his wife share your special day.

[ramanth]

How are things going WolfChan?

[NoahsMommy]

If I learned anything from my wedding it was to make it the day I wanted...that's all who matters on your wedding day.

Family and friends will ALWAYS have an opinion and if they can't be graceful that's their problem. Don't let them get you down...

I had the oposite problem...my parents aren't religious and anytime I'd talk about the ceremony, communion, the unity candle, whatever, I felt my mom's attention fading. It hurts when people don't respect your beliefs, especially on a day that supposed to be about you and your love.

I'd write that letter if you feel your uncle will be unable to be an adult. If he gets offended....too bad, his prior behavior paved the way for your letter.

Good luck with your planning. Your dress is breathtaking...I stared at it for minutes....its so pretty!!

[CathyBogart]

My mom said that she'll talk to him, but I think I'm going to write him a separate letter as well. If he doesn't like it, he will be un-invited.

I'm glad everyone likes that dress...I came across it quite by accident and nearly fell off of my chair (Well, that's because the chair's broken, but still...) when I saw it! Brian's leaning towards Burgundy for the dress, and since I couldn't decide between the two that's probably what I'll go for. I'll probably get the dress as soon as I can afford it, and just keep it in storage until we get married. Less to spend at the last minute.

[Barbara]

Oh I don't think I could buy a dress like that and just save it! Why not just marry?

[CathyBogart]

Not while we're both still living with parents. I'd love to though, even if it was just to get on his medical insurance!!