Boo Bear and Coco Puff; update 1/2; a weird update; post #41

[Queen of Poop]

I feel so badly for all of you. Grief is so very difficult, and each person/animal experiences it differently. When Sami left us Sasha grieved for 8 months. I was certain she would die. She spent all of her time in my walk in closet. Then one day she snapped out of it, thank goodness. Hugs for all 3 of you. I wish I could make it better.

[momoffuzzyfaces]

Prayers on the way for Boo Bear and you!!!

Chester was that way when Luke went to the Bridge. For months he looked behind my recliner where Luke used to sleep. Even Grandma peeked behind there a few times.

[Medusa]

Mary, have you tried explaining it to them. Actually saying the words out loud? Sonya (the Pet Psychic lady) swears they understand everything we say. Maybe Coco Puff is vocalizing asking you questions.

It couldn't hurt to explain to them that Pidgie has crossed the bridge and is okay and that you'll all see each other again some day (or whatever your beliefs).

Actually, I have, Lisa, several times but I'll keep doing it. It doesn't comfort me much either right now so I know where he's coming from. I just wish he could talk. He's just totally deflated. My son and I just now got home from seeing a movie and Boo came to me and I'm holding him as I type. When I tried to put him down for a second, he held on to me even tighter.

Thanx for your prayers, friends. Please keep them coming.

[krazyaboutkatz]

Mary, this is so sad. I hope that both of your cats will start feeling happier soon. It sounds like Boo needs a lot of extra attention and loving to help him get through this.

I've never experienced this with any of my cats because they all seemed to know that my RB Pepper and RB Starr were sick and they just accepted the fact that they never returned home. My roommate keeps receiving visits from both Pepper and Starr so I'm sure that my cats do too. I've seen my Pepper once and I thought I also saw Starr once so I'm sure that they're here a lot without my knowledge.

[Vermontcat]

I'm sorry to hear that Boo and Coco Puff are missing Pidge so much.
Keep giving them all the love and attention that you can, hopefully it will get easier for all of you with time.
Sending hugs your way, especially some for Coco Puff from his sweetie Milly.

[jennielynn1970]

Major LES here thinking of your Boo missing his Pidge. My heart breaks for him.

HUGS to you both.

[slick]

I have read this thread several times but couldn't type anything at the time. This is so very, very sad. I have not experienced anything like what you are going through. Max was glad when Speckles made the trip because he always felt he was the top cat and now he loves being alone with me.

http://www.gratefulness.org/candles/...ng&cid=9895069
Just for you.

Slick

[cassiesmom]

Medusa, how are things with Boo?

http://www.gratefulness.org/candles/...ng&cid=9907204

[Catty1]

Any point contacting Nancy Efrusy?

[Medusa]

Medusa, how are things with Boo?

http://www.gratefulness.org/candles/...ng&cid=9907204

No change, I'm afraid. And now that my son has gone back to L.A., he seems worse b/c he and my son are such good buds. I've been talking to Boo, telling him that Pidge is safe and well and not in pain, that she misses him but that she's w/Puddy and that we'll all be together one day. I swear, it irritates him when I do that so I've stopped. He jerks his head away so he's earned the right to be left alone. He's on my lap, though, as I'm typing this.

Any point contacting Nancy Efrusy?

I think I'll pass on that this time. She's a very nice lady but I doubt that she'll tell me anything that I don't already know. My boy is grieving, he's old and not in the best of health himself. I love him so much and I wish Pidge were here to snuggle up to him.

[katladyd]

I hope he cheers up soon. It must be heartbreaking to see him like this. Give him loves from me.

[Medusa]

I figured it out as I was lying in bed last night: Boo is mad at me for taking his Pidge away and not bringing her home. If you'll recall, when I took her over to him as we were leaving for Dr. Lee's so that he could say goodbye, he turned away and made a sound as if to say "Leave me alone!" He still loves me, as is evident by the fact that he comes to me for love and attention, but he wants it only when he comes to me now. If I try to show him affection at any other time, he becomes aggravated.

Yodie is mad at me, too. She's had that collar on for a month now and she's really depressed. I give her plenty of attention, too, but when I have to shove meds down her throat and squirt meds in her ear twice a day, she gets furious! She's had enough and she avoids me now. She won't sleep w/me either. And it's not going to get any better for a while b/c even if the incision stays closed today after the stitches are removed, she still has to wear the collar for a while b/c of her eye, poor girl.

Boy, do I feel like a villain!

[Anikaca77]

That's a very good point.

Time will heal hopefully.

My prays for you and Boo Bear and Coco Puff.

Melissa

[phesina]

Awwwwww, for you and your kitties. Not an easy time of it for any of you.

Lots of {{{{{HUGS}}}}} and ~~~~~PURRS~~~~~ to you all.

[catmandu]

I know that Joseph must miss John Hancock, they were such good friends and always sitting together.
And we all miss Moose the MagnfiCat who was such a Social Butterfly of a Cat and whose PURRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR RRRRRRRRRRRRRR made everyone feel better!!

We are praying that Boo will realize that what happened was not your fault.
Maybe when Pidge visits , things will be cleared up.