Good by My Friend....

[leslie]

Tubby is not in any discomfort now. You will meet again for sure. I am so sorry for your loss, we will all miss Tubby and all your stories! They don't have to stop yet! Please know that all is ok.

[Barbara]

I'm also coming back so often! It will take time, time. And he never will be gone forever because there will be so many moments when you just look at one of his places and expect for a second to see him there .

We know we can't fill the gap but we're here for you.

[Tubby & Peanut's Mom]

Thank you all again. When I woke up this morning I thought it was going to be a better day, but it's not. He wasn't underfoot in the bathroom while I was getting ready. He wasn't begging for his morning treats, he wasn't there for his morning skritchies - those morning skritchies were always the best - he wasn't there to watch me get dressed, I didn't get any welcoming mrrt's when I entered a room where he was.

I have never lost anyone as close to me as he was that was such a big part of my daily routine. I've lost friends and family, but I didn't see them all that much so it didn't make that much of an impact on my daily life. But Tubby, as usual, he's a whole other story. He was always the type that had to be right in the middle of everything. He was a total attention monger and would follow me everywhere I went. I often called him my velcro kitty because I just couldn't detach him from me - especially after we'd get back from a vacation or something. Then there was no getting away from him.

But like I was saying, he was always such a big presence in the house, and now he's gone and the house seems so empty and quiet. Peanut is becoming more of a snuggle bunny. I don't know if it's because she misses the attention from him, or if she's just glad because she doesn't have to compete with him for our attention anymore. She has also become much more vocal and will walk around the house meowing. I think she is wondering where he is and why he doesn't answer. If he was laying in the living room, and she came down the steps, he would mrrt at her a few times, just to say hi. And even though she would swat him when he licked her, I think she is missing that attention as well.

Anyway, the stupid phone is ringing so I guess I better get to work. How am I supposed to work and don't these people understand that I could really care less about their electricity being out?! I haven't been able to stop thinking about him since the beginning of the "crisis" 3 weeks ago. I try and distract myself and it doesn't work.

I miss him so much. When does it start getting easier?

[lbaker]

It not so much that it ever gets easier Debbie, it's more like you find yourself getting stronger - and able to cope with it... although it doesn't seem like it now. Such a huge whole in your life and I'm so very sorry you have to go through it.

[Samantha Puppy]

Not for a little while. Keep on mourning as long as you see fit. Little by little, it will become a touch easier to distract yourself and every day from there on out will be a little better. You'll never forget him, you'll never stop missing him, but the pain dims and you are able to remember all the wonderful things and not concentrate on the last three weeks or the fact that he's not there.

It will get better, I promise. Just go slowly.

[Cincy'sMom]

Just wanted you to know we are still thinking of you and feeling your loss. Unfortunately, only time will make it easier.

[chrangharris]

I'm so very sorry to hear about your loss.

[wolflady]

{{{{Debbie}}}}
I can't believe I just found this. I'm so sorry to hear about Tubby. Please know that you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers, because it's not easy to lose a beloved family member like Tubby. Reading about how Peanut is going around meowing brought a tear to my eye. I think cats miss their "siblings" and don't know where they've gone or why. Hug her tightly and let her know that her "big" brother is now an angel looking over your family.

*****hugs*****
Karen

[slick]

Debbie....I was just getting ready for work and Max kept getting under foot and meowing constantly for his morning tummy rub and all I could think of was you and Tubby. I admire you so much and you are a much stronger purrson than I'll ever be. When the time comes for Speckles I think I will have to take some time off work.

{{{HUGS}}} It's been said before but in time the pain will ease up.

Much love
slick
xo

[RedHedd]

It does take time. There are days, even now, when I miss Goldie coming to "help" me dry my hair, which was her "job" the last few years of her life. It does get easier with time, but we never forget our furry friends who have gone over the bridge.

[krazyaboutkatz]

Debbie, I agree with the others in that it does take time to heal. It may even take years. I know that I still think about my Pepper daily and still get tears in my eyes if I think about him too much. I don't think that we ever get over our loss but we do get stronger emotionally. The best thing that helped me was to let 2 more cats into my life. I know this isn't the right thing for everyone but it really helps to start being able to love another kitty even though you know in your heart that the kitty you lost can never be replaced. Please take care. Things will get better. {{{HUGS}}}

[Tubby & Peanut's Mom]

Originally posted by krazyaboutkatz
The best thing that helped me was to let 2 more cats into my life.

Someone else mentioned this and I was going to reply to them, but forgot, so here goes. There is no doubt in my mind that I will get another kitty, and I think I've even got Terry somewhat convinced I'll need 2. The reason behind that is because I'm not sure how Peanut will take to another kitty, seeing as how she is such a queenie and all. And more importantly, no matter what kitty I get it will be younger than she is, and will more than likely want to play more, so to keep new kitty from terrorizing Peanut too much, he/she will need a playmate. I would really like to adopt 2 together - you know, you see them and hear about them all the time how they've been together since they were babies and the shelter really doesn't want to split them up.

However, it's still too early for that, and the way I know that is because I was looking through petfinder yesterday and none of the kitties were good enough. There were some that looked like real sweethearts and even a black duo, 6 years old I think they were. But what I was looking for was Tubby. I don't want another cat, I want Tubby back. I know that's not possible, and I know the day will come when I'm ready for one (hopefully 2) more, but not just yet I guess....unless someone can bring Tubby back for me.....please? <weak smile>

[catfamily]

My Marshall and Tucker are great together.No more upsets from the older boys and girls.They totally leave them alone.When I just had Marshall..the whole house was upset at him bugging everyone.All he needed was another playmate.So your right on that one Debbie.I really am so sorry for your greatest loss right now.I'm so attached to BooBoos it will be just as hard when his day comes..soon.
He follows me everywhere too.Constant snuggler like your Tubby,and talks all the time to me.I hope things look better with some new cats coming in.

[smokey the elder]

When it's time for you to welcome another furbaby(ies) you will know. As a rescuer I see it a lot; someone lost their cat of many years and they're "just looking." Every once in a while some cat ends up being a "special delivery" for them. I think the RB cat pointed out the selection.

{{{Hugz}}} again, and give Peanut some extra lovin's.

[Cinder & Smoke]

Originally posted by Tubby & Peanut's Mom

... There is no doubt -
and I think I've even got Terry somewhat convinced I'll need 2.

... I would really like to adopt 2 together -
... they've been together since they were babies and
the shelter really doesn't want to split them up.

This *need* has Lucky & Louie written all over it!!

And they're not Tubby BLACK - so you'd never be accused of
trying to replace your First Love - Tubby.

Luck & Louie - "Available" >>>



Take all the time you need to Deb,
but I think I head Tubby say "Mrrrrt!" when he saw the L&L Portrait!

{{{HUGGS}}}

/s/ Phred