Wow, it sounds very similar to my relationship with my mom when I lived at home. It's hard, I really don't know what to tell you because I didn't handle it very well.

I wish I had mother's like some of the great women on this board. Active mothers, mothers who cared, mothers who do things for themselves.
I know how you feel, I often wish that Debbie (Sirrahbed) was my mom. She is a wonderful woman and she seems to have a close family.