Originally posted by Kfamr
VERY well said JC. I agree with everything you've said.





I'm in no way saying you're wrong for what you said, but just think...
Wouldn't a child knowing that his/her father raped his/her mother, be punshiment?

Without saying names, I have a friend who's father she's never met. Her mother was raped, and her mother chose to have the child. My friend is now 16 and has had the worst emotional problems any 16 year old has to deal with.
It's even worse for her when people ask why she lives with her grandparents instead of her mother and father.

I AM thankful that her mother brought her into this world, she is one of the most wonderful friends i've ever had, but with all of the pain and suffering she's been through, knowing that she was created in such a way, she has had SO many mental and emotional issues I can't help but to feel bad for her... and think -- would it have been better if her mother chose abortion??
I understand what you mean, but as for what I believe and something that I very much am set on I could not with a clean concious kill my baby, even though I was raped. Because inside me would be a baby that is part of ME, not only part of the rapist but of me. I also have emotional and mental issues but I grew up in a VERY loving home. Say someone was raped and they had the baby and put it up for adoption and the baby was adopted by a very loving and caring family. My aunt was adopted (I don't know the circumstances surrounding her birth and parents) but I know that she makes my life SO much more special, and if her life was ended before she was able to live it, I know that I wouldn't have such a wonderful aunt. I can understand that having the child know that the her father is a rapist can be VERY hard and punishing to the child, but to choose to end that childs life before it even got to life it is something I could not do. Also, a person whose mother is raped and it has a lot of emotional/mental issues, can get over those (I am in NO way say that its like "oh just get over it!" because I KNOW how hard it is), and become a help for other people, for the world and can become someones dear friend (not saying that they can't do that while they are hurting/struggling) but when a person has sorted through all their issues they can help other people much better, trust me. I hope I made myself clear. And I am in no way trying to start an arguement etc.