You know Tina in a way we are all going through this too on account of Laurie's Mom's passing. Some people want to talk it out and others just want to be left alone to grieve in peace. Let her take the lead but reassure her that you will always be there to listen. Marci is lucky to have a good friend like yourself.

When my Father passed away in 1995 people kept coming up to me for weeks saying "Are you alright??" and patting me on the arm. After a week of this I was ready to punch out the next person that asked me that. There is sympathy, then there is too much sympathy.

Could you maybe give it week then ask her out for coffee or something just to talk. Spending a bit of time one-on-one can tell you which path she wants to take.

Oh yes, and if she does get emotional, let her cry and tell her it OK to cry. Some people (like me...) get really embarrassed if they feel tears coming on in front of people.